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Sat
26
Mar '11

Life on the Beautiful Island of Hainan

I must admit I’ve been neglecting my blog a little bit recently for a few reasons.

Firstly because I’m working on starting 2 businesses, which I’ll talk more about as they progress, and secondly because I’m having too much fun at the beach in my beautiful new home in Sanya!

Me and my pink hat

Yes, Jen and I have moved from our hometown in Beijing to the amazing subtropical island of Hainan, where we live in the beautiful city of Sanya (the southern-most part of China). Here we sip coconuts, lay under palm trees and enjoy the wonderful weather next to the long beautiful beaches the city has to offer.

Unlike my first home in China which was really small, but clean in Shunde, then my second home which was really small and full of cockroaches in Aojiang and my third home which was just really small in Beijing, I have finally moved to a really awesome and big apartment here in Sanya. For the first time since I arrived in China I feel completely happy and comfortable in my home. It’s spacious, beautiful, only $230 per month, and only 500 meters from the seashore.

Ever since my trip to Thailand I’ve had a big love for beaches and it’s so nice to have one so close to home here in Sanya. Just the ability to go for a run and a quick swim in the morning, or relax under the stars with the sound of the waves at night has been such a wonderful addition to my life I have a hard time imagining going without it again.

Even though I’m working harder than ever on my 2 new businesses I feel more appreciation than ever for where I am and the environment around me.

Coconuts are now officially my favorite drink

I’m still planning to return home in June, but its going to be very hard to leave my new home of Sanya behind.

Here’s a slideshow of a selection of pictures from around the city.

Sun
20
Feb '11

The 20RMB River of Xingping Yangshuo

Recently I had the chance to explore the famous Li River of XingPing in YangShuo, Guilin. This river is famous for its beauty and because a section of it was chosen to be featured on the back of China’s 20RMB bill.

20 Yuan RMB

The town of Xingping is incredibly small and ancient looking with stone streets and narrow pathways.

I love the feel of these old towns

We travelled on a rainy day that brought a surreal mist over the mountains making them seem as if they were from a scene in a dream.

The harbor

At times it seemed as if the mountains stretched to the heavens.

avatar anyone?

To travel the river we decided to take a small person bamboo raft rather than one of the bigger boats to have a more peaceful and secluded feel on the misty day.

Our driver was friendly

The ride down the river was incredibly beautiful, and the weather added to the mysterious atmosphere of the lake kept me in a feeling of awe at my surroundings.

peaceful

Eventually we travelled to a small island where we had a snack of battered fish and tea and took a look at another well known landmark known as the 9 horse mountain. A mountain in which apparently only the wises and most powerful of men are able to see all 9 horses. Due to the fog of the day Jen and I were only able to make our 3 or 4 of them.

9 horse mountain

On our way back down the river we stopped at the famous 20 RMB spot, but to our disappointment we noticed that the actual spot on the river the shot was taken the water levels were too low and there was land there instead. We climbed onto the nearby land to get as close of angle as we could but with the addition of the fog we weren’t able to capture the same shot.

not quite whats on the bill

Check out the rest of the pictures in the slideshow below~

Sat
5
Feb '11

My Experience Hosting a TV Show

Recently I was invited to be the host of an episode of a new Chinese/English tv show called Journey Through China. In this show various foreigners from different places travel around china, interact with the locals and learn various things about Chinese traditions and cultures.

My episode focused on the symbol of the dragon.

This was a really interesting experience for me and I was thrilled to have the chance to host a tv show which is something I had never done before. Strangely enough I got the honor because of one of my English Teaching advertisements on the internet. They read my ad, saw my picture and figured I would be a good fit for their next episode.

Filming took a day and a half and there were 3 main dragon related things I reported on.

On the first day we went to meet a tradesmen who was given the title of master when it came to creating silk embroidery or needle and thread art.

Master Yao

He created various beautiful pictures of dragons and other animals on picture frames, and in addition places his embroidery on robes such as the ones ancient Chinese kings used to wear. He taught me that all ancient Chinese kings would wear dragons on their robes because dragons are known as the symbol of power.

The master not only specialized in dragons but many nature and animals scenes

Second on my journey was an extremely expensive high quality furniture and decoration store. Here I met with an expert on the symbol of the dragon through ancient Chinese cultural decorations. We took a look at tables and chairs and tea sets and jewelry chests and wardrobes. They all contain extremely intricate details and solid craftsmanship. Most were a little too expensive for my tastes though, the wall panel decoration behind us in this picture was worth over a million RMB!

The wall contained many small detailed dragons.

The second day was my favorite as I got to meet with a popular tv host and artist that even I had seen on TV during my time in China. In the past he hosted an art show and now hosts a popular cooking one. His works of art were quite beautiful and he had a very strong presence to him. For this segment he grabbed a blank canvas and drew and entire work of art featuring a dragon in front of me while I watched. He explained each feature of the dragon he was adding for each specific purpose and it was really interesting to see a famous artist create something before my eyes.

adding the dragons scales

Adding colour and smoke

After completing the drawing he put his official artist stamp onto it, and I was told once that stamp was added it instantly made the work worth around 100,000rmb.

The finished Dragon

Next he taught me how to draw the Chinese character for dragon. After a quick lesson I gave it a shot and it turned out not too bad. The artist signed both of our names to the work and also gave it his official stamp before giving the work to me as a gift!

I'm sure even with the stamp mine wont be worth as much as the dragon!

The challenging part of the filming was that my Chinese is less than optimal. I had to pretend I was following all of the lengthy conversations when really I had no idea what the people were explaining to me most of the time and in addition I had to ask some lengthy Chinese questions which usually took me 3 or 4 tries to get right if there were lots of words I wasn’t familiar with.

The most difficult thing I had to do was for the introduction to the show. I had to sing a 4 line ancient Chinese poem and then give a paragraph long introduction in English all in a single shot. The ancient poem was full of words I wasn’t familiar with and it took every ounce of focus I had for a full 25 minutes before I had finally memorized it. I compared memorizing something in your non native language to memorizing a long series of meaningless sounds that must be made in a specific order. In other words… it’s really hard!

All in all I had a great time filming the show and I feel really lucky I had the chance. The pay wasn’t great – 500RMB but the experience and the fact that they are going to send me the completed episode once it is put together made it more than worth it.

If you live in China look for me on CCTV in the future!

group shot

Fri
14
Jan '11

Identifying with Impermanence

If there is one lasting truth about life, it’s that nothing is permanent. Our experiences, our possessions, our relationships and even our own lives will all come to an end eventually.

With this knowledge its crucial for our own happiness that we don’t become too strongly identified with something impermanent, or else when it changes or leaves, it will feel to us as if a part of our selves has gone… a feeling which can leave someone feeling broken and defeated by the circumstances of life.

It’s all too easy in life to become identified with external things, and to believe they define who you are.

It’s hard to blame a successful doctor who has spent 8 years of his life working to become educated in his profession, then another 20 years diligently taking part in his practice, from identifying so strongly with his possession that it is directly linked in his mind with who he is. A doctor such as this will likely say “I am a doctor” in a way that suggests it defines their existence.

A model who has been told they were beautiful their whole lives, and who has never had a job which didn’t rely on their beauty may identify with the idea of being a ‘beautiful girl’ stronger than anything else… Just as an Olympic athlete who has working nearly their entire lives towards an athletic goal may feel as if their athletic qualities define who they are inside.

These people may have other things in their life, but they will likely pale in comparison to the mental energy and focus that have been placed on their primary feeling of who they are. The doctor may say “I’m a Doctor and a father” or the athlete may say “I’m an athlete who loves chess” but no matter how many different external things they identify with, these still aren’t who they really are.

Who would these people be if they crash landed on a deserted island and every external thing they identified with no longer mattered? Even this is not who they truly are, but it’s a much closer representation.

Like I said, the problem with identifying with the external things such as in the examples above is that nothing is permanent and everything changes. Eventually the doctor will retire, the women will age and loose her beauty, and the athlete will no longer be in his prime. Who will these people be if they had thought these things defined their existence?

The problem is even worse if the changes are not so gradual and we don’t have time to mentally prepare ourselves for them. What if, for some reason the doctor suddenly loses his medical license? What if the girl gets into an accident and her beautiful face becomes scarred? What if the athlete gets an injury that ends his career? The sudden loss of that which these people so strongly identify with will leave them feeling as if their lives are over. They will feel their purpose for existing has been taken from them. At the very least they will become deeply depressed and distraught about who they are.

The truth is however that these people haven’t lost that which defines them. What they lost was only an impermanent aspect of their lives. The true underlying aspects of who they are cannot be lost, but if they have lived their lives identifying with these things then it may feel that way.

While our own lives may not be as cut and dry as the examples above, it’s still helpful to look at which impermanent aspects of ourselves or our lives we strongly identify with and to ask ourselves if these things changed tomorrow, who would we still be?

These external things are not only limited to careers or our life situations, but can also be our personal characteristics that we identify with in which we feel are permanent.

A man who has always identified with being a tough strong leader may lose hope if he develops a physically limiting illness that makes him feel weak and helpless. Just as a man who has always been identified with his intelligence may curse himself if he begins to become senile as he ages.

Realizing that even the characteristic we hold are not who we truly are can free us from the mental pain caused when we feel we are losing that which makes us, us.

Instead realize who you really are, is something that lies beneath all of the impermanent external things. It’s something with more depth, something which cannot be touched. It’s the being within you that shines through any external things that get in the way. It’s the something that can be seen in a person’s eyes if you look deep enough.

If you’ve been around enough you might recall a time when you saw someone, perhaps a beggar on the street, or a poor person from another country, who has almost nothing in the whole world, but who’s eyes and smile glow with such passion for life that you can instantly feel who they truly are beyond any external thing at all. This is a glimpse at the true self which we can never lose.

Try your best not to identify too strongly with any external part of your life. And if you’ve lost something in life which makes you feel as if you’ve lost a part of yourself, realize that the only reason you feel this way is because you identified with that part of your life. Accept that the true you is something beyond all the external ever-changing aspects of the world, and realize thing that really make you who you are, are intact and well… then bring the spark of your true self back out into the world!

Mon
10
Jan '11

Terracota Warriors and Hua Shan Mountain in Xi’an China

A few days after new years my girlfriend and I took a trip to Xi’an China.
Xi’an is one of the must see places in China and is the home of the famous Terracotta army.

People say if you want to experience China’s culture in the past 100 years visit Shanghai, if you want to experience it in the past 500 years visit Beijing, and if you want to experience the past 2000 years go to Xi’an.

The Terracotta warriors were quite an amazing sight to behold and it was really cool to learn they had only been discovered in 1974 . It is estimated that there are over 8,000 soldiers in the pits with many still undiscovered. The fact that no two soldiers were alike really made me appreciate the amount of work and detail that went into each soldier, and the massive amount of effort it must have took to create them way back in 210BC.

Besides the Terracotta warriors, we also visted the famous Big Goose(swan) tower. This tower was featured in the popular Chinese story “Journey to the West.” This legend is based off a true story of a monk who embarked on a journey to India and brought back many amazing books as a gift to the king. China at the time did not have a lot of contact with other countries and cultures so the books were seen to be extremely valuable and knowledgeable. The king was so happy that the monk went on such a difficult journey to bring him these books that besides financial rewards he built a tower in his honor to hold the books and to give the monk a place to live.

Last on our journey was one of the biggest and most amazing mountains in all of China, Hua Shan mountain.

This mountain is massive and has 5 incredible peaks. We only had time to climb to the lower of the 5 peaks, but it still took us over 4.5 hours of fast paced climbing to reach it.

It was really special to visit this mountain in the winter as we were practically alone for the entire climb (except for a bunch of cats that strangely joined us throughout the journey) and also the beautiful snow on the mountains and tree combined with the absolutely silence of the cold mountain gave everything a really surreal feel.

Xi’an was a great place to visit, and has so far been the city with the richest history I have ever seen during my travels. We took a lot of great pictures so check them out in the slideshow below.

Wed
29
Dec '10

Christmas and Free Hugs in Beijing

This christmas in Beijing was one to remember.
My girlfriend Jen and I decided to create a free hugs event here in Beijing

Free hugs is not a new idea… but even the idea of simply hugging is not too common here in China.
Jen and I wanted to spread some love, and some Christmas spirit to anyone we could.

Check out the video I made for it:

To me free hugs is about connecting with strangers.

I think of it this way:

In life, we are too involved with the idea of separation. We separate ourselves into groups such as countries, races, classes,  and social groups… and based on this idea we tend to care less about people based on how far ‘separated’ they are from us.

My friend once told me a story here in China where she witnessed a motorbike crash. The driver was in rough shape so my friend rushed to help him. As she reached the man she saw he needed an ambulance, and not knowing how to call one herself (in Chinese) she yelled at the passing people for help. The people however did not stop to help her. They looked at her and passed her by, or simply ignored her. My friend explained that in China if someone is your friend they will go far out of their way to help you with compassion, however if you are a stranger, they couldn’t care less.

The only reason this attitude is prevalent in some people, is because of the idea of separation. Instead of seeing the people of the world with a spirit of oneness, we pick and choose select individuals and deem them worthy of our compassion.

On different levels this leads to things like wars between countries, hatred between races, poverty between classes, disputes between social circles and indifference between strangers.

With free hugs however this idea of separation is abolished. Everyone, no matter who they are, no matter what country, color, or class they belong to, are given free hugs. It doesn’t matter that they are complete strangers. It doesn’t matter if you’ll never see them again. All that matters is spreading a little love, friendship and compassion between people.

When you can give some love to a complete stranger, it helps free your mind from any notions of separation between people that you hold, which I think is a very valuable thing.

When you begin to see the whole world as your country, and all of it’s people as your friends, the world becomes a friendlier place. You’ll begin to notice that if you talk to strangers or anyone in your life, as if there was no separation between you, and as if you were already friends, they’ll see you as a very approachable person and you’ll get a much friendlier response from them.

See where in your life the concept of separation is a strong one for you, and see if you can look at the people with a spirit of oneness… and if you have the chance, give someone a hug!

Fri
17
Dec '10

A Day in the Monetary System

Yesterday I went shopping in China with my girlfriend Jen because she wanted to pick out a new camera. We thought we were being pretty smart about it. We spent about 2 hours researching online, looking at tons of camera review sites to find out which ones were the best for our price range. We got a list of 6 choices together and headed to the Beijing technology area to make the purchase.

The Beijing tech area is a marvel for people who live in western countries. It’s an entire area, full of like 10 of the biggest malls you’ve ever seen, and all of them sell nothing but technology. It can be overwhelming at first glance, but we knew we had a list, so we figured we just had to go to the floor that sold cameras, try a few from our list, pick our favorite, and make it home in an hour or two.

Things didn’t work out so smoothly.

The tech area is stressful to say the least, and more so if you’re a foreigner. Even from the second you step off of the subway there are salesmen trying desperately and furiously to find out what you want to buy, so they can make commission by taking you to their stores. As a foreigner you’re a higher target as well, because you’re obviously ‘rich’ (ya right). These salesmen are no pushovers either. They get up in your face with big loud voices telling you how their store has exactly what you need and they don’t give up without a fight. If you yell at them you don’t want what they are selling, they try to sell something else. If you tell them, you don’t want their help they tell you that you need their help. If you tell them to go away they guess frantically at what you’re trying to buy. The best way to deal with them is to simply pretend they don’t exist, in which they will still follow you for a good 30 seconds rambling in your ear about their products before giving up.

These guys wouldn’t be so terrible… except they’re everywhere.

By ignoring these desperate guys as best we could and walking as quickly as possible Jen and I finally came across a floor full of camera stores. We walked into one that had one of the brands we wanted and showed the name of it to the saleslady. She told us she had the camera and she would get it so that we could try it out. We were relieved things were going so smoothly. She came back a few seconds later with a more expensive model than the one we wanted. She began telling us how great it was. We quickly stopped her and told her we already checked out every model and we wanted the cheaper one. She said no problem and that her colleague was going to get it, but in the meantime she wanted us to play with the better model. We took a few pictures while we waited as she went on and on about the camera features. Eventually I got a little impatient and asked where the model we wanted was. She told me it would take another minute. This happened a few more times until about 10 minutes had passed. Eventually I mentioned to Jen how they are just trying to sell us this expensive camera and we should go somewhere else as they were wasting our time. A big argument exploded in Chinese over this and after discussing for a minute Jen informed me they didn’t actually have our model at all they were lying to us in hopes we would buy the better one.

The second we left the store we were surrounded by salesmen again. I showed them the list and said bring me to the store that has these cameras, these exact models. They quickly assured us they had the exact models, and reconfirmed that as we asked them 4-5 times with suspicion. Upon entering the camera store the salesmen quickly ran away, and we found that again, the store had different models then we wanted. This time the store salesmen apologized for not having the right model but promised us his partners store upstairs had it and also had 3 other models on our list. He said it was close so we decided to check it out. We followed him down the hall and out of the building. Jen and I looked at each other suspiciously as he had told us it was just upstairs. Next we went to an elevator and rode up to the top floor. Here we entered a big strange camera room with a ton of tables that had customers and sales people sitting at them. They told us to sit down, take off our coats and relax and brought us our own salesmen to discuss things with us. We showed him the last and he happily declared they had 4 of the cameras on it and they would allow us to try them out.  Jen and I looked around and thought the place was quite suspicious. It was incredibly isolated compared to the other stores and very hard to reach. We wondered… why would the store be so secretive? Why were there hardly any cameras on display? Eventually the salesmen brought us 1 right camera and 2 (wrong model ones). We were a little angry as he assured us the wrong model ones were ‘totally the same’ but we tried out the one he did get right. It seemed not quite up to quality though and didn’t quite feel right… Jen and I were feeling really suspicious about the store at this point so we decided just to get out of there. (more on this in a second)

After being bombarded by a ton more salespeople on the way out. We entered 1 more store and were lied to yet again. This time the owner claimed we couldn’t test out the cheaper model we wanted as it was only for display but then happily suggested we try the expensive one sitting in the glass right next to it, he also explained the cheaper one was no good as it missed two extremely important features (which all the camera review websites noted were pretty irrelevant) and explained how the model we wanted couldn’t even do HD video (also completely untrue.) We had enough of the BS at this point so we decided to leave the tech area and went to a real store that was nearby.

The real store was a breath of fresh air. We told the store lady about our experience and she explained to us how in those secret rooms on the top floor the cameras aren’t real. They are either refurbished previously broken ones or totally fake ones built to look like real ones. Jen and I thanked god that we trusted our instincts and left when we did.

Next in the real store we tried out a bunch of cameras and narrowed down our choices to the ones we wanted. The only problem however was that this store was super expensive, more-so even than the online stores. If we wanted a good deal we had to go back in… We didn’t like the idea, but this time we knew which camera we wanted to buy, so it was just a matter of finding it and making it out alive.

We went back in and told a salesman to take us to the store with the model we showed him. He told us he was so certain the store had the correct model that he even accepted Jens offer that if he was lying to us he would buy us coffee. Unsurprisingly however, the second we entered the store he quickly ran away, and the model we wanted was nowhere to be found. Here we asked the salesman about a camera I really wanted to check out for my own curiosity, an expensive one with an amazing slow motion video setting that could take up to 1000 frames of video per second resulting in incredibly movie quality slow motion effects. We explained this to him and he told us he had one that was really close with all the same features. I of course at this point told Jen we should leave as he was obviously lying, but the man was so persistent in assuring us it was basically the same camera that he convinced us to try it. I told him all I cared about was the slow motion and without really listening he continued reassuring us it was the same. We eventually agreed to try it, and after 10 minutes of him showing us every feature except slow motion, I told him to cut the crap and show me it. He asked Jen to translate the slow motion for me 1 last time then laughed at me and told me it was impossible for cameras to do that and if I wanted slow motion effects the only way to do that was to use a computer program. I kind of lost it at this point, I just couldn’t the bullshit anymore. I swore at the salesman and stormed out of the store, then promptly yelled a big FUCK OFF to the swarming salesmen from the other stores. Jen and I began yelling at each other about problems with translations and a whole array of things, we were both furious and decided to go home.

We stepped outside into the night, realized we had wasted our entire Sunday and still didn’t have a camera. We felt completely defeated.

We boarded the subway and went home empty handed.

On the way home we apologized for yelling at each other, and we apologized for all of our outbursts near the end of the day. We talked about what a terrible experience it was, just trying to buy something without all the lies and trickery and deceit. Counting now we had been lied over about 10 times during the day by people who just wanted to get their hands on our money. We talked about how it’s terrible there is such greed and corruption when it comes to such a simple thing as trying to buy a product. We also talked about how it was our fault that we put ourselves through the terrible experience just to save 300-400 RMB ($60-80).

But then we realized something else. All of the problems we faced today, all of the lying, the cheating, the anger, the greed, the frustration, the corruption, the time wasting and even the fight Jen and I had with each other all had 1 single underlying cause:

…The monetary system in which we live in.

Every problem we went through today all boils down to the outdated system we live in, the monetary system that causes scarcity and rewards greed and corruption. Can we really blame the salesmen for doing what they did? The truth is, they are only doing their best to survive and thrive in the system they are a part of. They need money for their survival, and with China being such a competitive place, it’s no question that their tactics that involve lies and tricks are often necessary to make more sales. I’m sure some of them have bills to pay. I’m sure some of them have to work themselves out of big debts. I’m sure some are struggling to simply put food on the table for their families. They have merely adapted to the system they live in. The same system which makes wars profitable, the same one that rewards companies for cutting costs through polluting the environment, the same one that has insurance companies denying claims of needy patients because it’s better for business, the system that leaves 100,000 people dying every day from starvation. This is the system in which we live, this is the system in which we support, and these are the consequences of the system.

Human beings are products of their environments. Anyone who has studied past cultures thoroughly enough understands that it’s not human nature that causes greed and corruption, but rather the social system in which people live. Scientific studies have shown that there is no such thing as a hardwired negative human nature, only education, and conditioning determines how people behave. These salesmen are not just bad people, perhaps on the contrary they are very competent people who have learnt how to get the most out of the system that rewards their actions. As the saying goes “don’t hate the player, hate the game.”

After watching Zeitgeist Addendum and keeping up with all the research and materials that have followed it for the past 2 years, I’ve gotten a solid understanding of how flawed and faulty the current monetary system is, and a better understanding of how we can thrive like never before when it is replaced. Through my daily life I can’t help but see the world from this perspective because the more you look, the more obvious it becomes. I don’t want to get into any details during this blog post, as it fails to even scratch the surface, but feel free to watch the movie and start gaining and understanding about it yourself.

Until next time, keep an eye out in your own life at the true cause of your negative feelings and see how many of them can boil down to the monetary system or the values it creates in people.

Sun
5
Dec '10

101 Ways to Overcome Shyness

After releasing my new eBook I wanted to compile a list of advice for overcoming shyness.

Shyness can hold us back in many areas of our life. Overcoming our fears, and our anxieties while building courage frees us to live the kind of social life we want. The following list contains 101 ways to overcome shyness.

Use Your Mind

  1. Stop thinking so logically it only gets in your way
  2. Change social pain to social pleasure by feeling good while being social
  3. Visualize your success
  4. Squash negative thoughts immediately
  5. Think in confident ways
  6. Always mentally congratulate yourself for taking any action
  7. Create confident habits
  8. Analyze and learn from your shyness
  9. Interrupt shy thinking patterns
  10. Get therapy to overcome past traumas
  11. Drop your negative social beliefs
  12. Drop any limiting beliefs you have about yourself
  13. Like yourself, focus only on what’s great about you
  14. Stop judging yourself
  15. Realize no one is watching you
  16. Accept your fears, there’s nothing wrong with you
  17. Breathe deeply to relax yourself
  18. Understand where your fear comes from
  19. Understand its often from our evolution
  20. Realize there is no such thing as failure as long as you try
  21. Clear your mind of all thoughts
  22. Live completely in the present moment
  23. Reprogram your subconscious until you are convinced you are confident
  24. Meditate
  25. Build Your Courage

  26. Learn building confidence is like training a muscle
  27. Write a list of all your fears
  28. Take baby steps in conquering your small fears
  29. Or… Tackle your biggest fears head on
  30. Set goals in writing
  31. Work towards them relentlessly
  32. Accept no excuses
  33. Respect yourself
  34. Stand up for yourself
  35. Create mental anchors of confidence
  36. Gain knowledge about your fears
  37. Gain experience in dealing with them
  38. Use overwhelming force to destroy them
  39. Take SOME action every time you feel ANY fear
  40. Feel the fear but do it anyway
  41. Improve your social skills

  42. Strengthen your voice
  43. Speak with confidence
  44. Stand taller (don’t look at the ground)
  45. Use your eyes to communicate
  46. Move slowly and deliberately
  47. Relax your shoulders
  48. Learn how to tell a good story
  49. Really listen to others when they speak
  50. Be cheerful
  51. Get out of your head and into the moment
  52. Smile often
  53. Bring a positive energy to your interactions
  54. Add value to others
  55. Be congruent with who you are
  56. Vibe with others
  57. Improve your sense of humor
  58. Practice personal development in all areas
  59. Connect with people who share your values
  60. Have fun when being social
  61. Motivate Yourself

  62. Realize you will die
  63. Imagine your life without changing 10 years from now
  64. Imagine your life 10 years from now when you can’t even remember your shyness
  65. Look at all the areas your shyness is holding you back
  66. Think how much more full of life you can be once you overcome it
  67. Strive for complete social freedom
  68. Get inspired… this is your only life… it’s yours to create… create it now.
  69. Decide you want to live a book worthy life that can inspire others
  70. As you progress appreciate how far you’ve come
  71. Never give up
  72. Perform These Action

  73. Make strong eye contact with others
  74. Smile at strangers
  75. Talk to at least 1 stranger a day
  76. Take a martial arts class
  77. Sincerely compliment someone every day
  78. Ask people deep questions
  79. Go hand gliding
  80. Always communicate honestly with others
  81. Play truth or dare and always pick dare
  82. Avoid yes or no answers to questions, expand
  83. Go cliff jumping
  84. Be the party in social gatherings
  85. Host a party at your house
  86. Ask someone out
  87. Dance every chance you get, dance every chance you get
  88. Go sky diving
  89. Be spontaneous
  90. Act silly
  91. Meet friends with similar goals and challenge each other
  92. Accept all challenges
  93. Never turn down a social get together
  94. Read my book
  95. Do social experiments such as giving free hugs
  96. Or wearing stupid outfits in public
  97. Having high five contests
  98. Singing in front of others
  99. Freezing in public (alone or with friends) until people notice
  100. Role play with strangers (pretend to be a salesman)
  101. Go on random adventures
  102. Go bungee jumping
  103. Stop watching TV or playing video games and GO OUT
  104. Expand your world by gaining new perspectives
  105. Travel the world

For more information on overcoming shyness and breaking out of your shell, and explanations of how exactly accomplish most of these 101 things check out my eBook: How to Break Out of Your Shell

Thu
2
Dec '10

How to Break Out of Your Shell

How to Break Out of Your Shell
Today I am happy to release my new eBook: How to Break Out of Your Shell.

After overcoming my own shyness in life, a process which greatly increased my happiness, I decided I wanted to share with others how they could do the same… but in a much more efficient way.

This book is 135 pages long and is really a complete resource for anyone looking to overcome shyness or fears, build tons of confidence, get a plan of action for becoming an outgoing person, improving their social skills and more.

I really believe I have written one of the best books available anywhere when it comes to getting this area of your life handled. The information comes from my own personal experience, and also from taking the best of what works, from countless other shyness overcoming, social dynamic sources.

The book is currently on sale for what I think is quite a modest price compared to the lasting impact that applying the information from this book can have on your entire life. If your shyness is holding you back in areas such as relationships, or your career, or your even happiness, then you owe it to yourself to try to overcome it… and this book will tell you exactly how.

You can read more about this book, see exactly what’s inside, and decide if you want to buy it from its page here.

Sun
21
Nov '10

The Power of Dreamers

“You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.”

Imagine ~ John Lennon

A lot are said about dreamers in our time.

Often they are ridiculed.

They are thought of as, hopers, wishers, who are simply full of childlike thinking.

Dreamers are told to get real.

They often hear statements like: “That’s just not how the world works.”

“Come back to earth.”

“Stop living in a fantasy.”

If people talk about changing the world, or believing in the goodness of humanity and so on, the so called “wiser” and “more experienced ones” out there will chuckle at the dreamers naivety.

My thoughts are a little different.

My Thoughts

I think dreamers are great people.

I think all good inventions started as silly dreams.

In fact I think you must be a dreamer to accomplish anything worthwhile in your time.

Thomas Edison once dreamed of an invention that could light up every house in America without using fire and the light bulb was born.

Guglielmo Marconi once dreamed of a device that could send information across the world without wires and the radio came to be.

Henry Ford dreamed of putting an automobile in every driveway of America.

Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela dreamed of a world without discrimination based on race.

How many of these people faced discrimination for their dreams before they became a reality? How many were thought to be crazy and unrealistic? How many proved to be naive? How many needed to come back to earth? How many would have been better off if they got real?

Dreamers Shape the World

Dreamers are the people who make things happen. There’s the inventors, the activists, the leaders. They show us the power a single human being has to affect the whole world. They teach us not to give up.

Those who scoff at dreamers are merely those who don’t understand that dreams are absolutely necessary, because every great thing in history began as nothing more than a dream. They don’t understand the power individual people have in this life. They don’t understand we have to become the change we want to see in the world. They don’t understand if you only focus on what ‘is’ you’ll never be able to bring about something new.

Go ahead a dream with your lives, dream wild and big. So much is possible in our lives, and so much potential is wasted by those who fail to dream. Take immediate action on your dreams. Even if their realization is currently too far away to achieve, you can still do something small.

I myself am currently dreaming of 2 ways to change the entire world. One is a secret project with my friend, and the other is through the Zeitgeist movement. Both are a too hard for me to realize alone at the moment, but I’m still taking action for them, and dreams backed by action can create real results over time.

If you’re not dreaming then all you’re doing is stagnating. You’ve accepted the world and life the way it is, and feel it’s either unnecessary or impossible to change. My thoughts are however… if you’re not willing to become the change you want to see in the world…. At least a little bit… At the very least by dreaming about something better… then you have no right to feel bad about or complain about things.

When you notice true statistics such as 4000 people die every hour due to starvation, which is 100,000 per day, and 36 million per year. If you’re not at least dreaming that this problem can be solved you have no right to feel bad about it.

We Need Dreamers

We need dreamers now more than any other time in the history of our planet, because we face bigger issues and larger problems than any other time before.

We need people to believe we can change the world and if they aren’t willing to think of how, at least join in a group that is working on it to show support.

Sure our own lives are busy and we have our own problems, but this is the future of all humanity we are talking about… its importance can’t be overstated. You also don’t need to dedicate hours of your time to a cause, simply showing your support, and spending a few minutes here and there raising awareness can do wonders. On top of that, even the simplest ideas can carry great momentum and inspire countless others… simple ideas such as a free hug.

I think we need to stop worrying about our little problems, we need to stop worrying about the latest celebrity gossip, we need to stop worrying if we have the latest iPhone or Gucci bag, and instead we need to start dreaming. Our world is falling apart. Our financial systems are crumbling. Our environment is being destroyed. Our people are suffering on immeasurable scales. We’re still killing each other through wars. We need to stop this! We need to start dreaming. Everyone of us, because as one, we can change all this. Countless dreamers of the past have shown us the power dreams have to change the world, Now it’s up to us.

Start dreaming people, we need you.

“I hope someday you will join us, and the world can live as one.”