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Vrsta nadaljevanje moje objave o tem, kako jezikovnih oblik vedenja, bi rad govoril o tej ideji imamo ljubezni.

Mislim, kako mislimo in govorimo o zamisli o ljubezni, ... v resnici ne ustreza realnosti, in dejansko povzroča nam veliko težav ali vsaj nekaj zmede.

Nas ljudje imajo navado, da zrušijo kompleksne stvari v enostavno, preprosto za prebavo dele. Mi neskončno spekter barv najdemo v mavrico in jo razgradijo v osnovne bloke rdeče-oranžno-rumeno-zeleno-modro-vijolično. Smo nagnjeni k razmišljanju o stvareh, kot dobro ali slabo, če vemo, da je veliko sivo področje med ... in naredimo enako, ko gre za ljubezen ... ali nekoga ljubiš ali pa ne ... to je kot svetlo stikalo, ne da bi sivo območje.

Včasih je koristno, da bi prekinil stvari navzdol v njihovi osnovni deli ..., da bi bilo cel kup manj primerni za opis barva neba kot 236 deli, modra, 206 delov zelene in 147 delov rdeče, kot bi photoshop je opisati ... ampak problem nastopi, ko pozabimo, da obstajajo te zapletenosti ... in potem smo prisiljeni izbrati popolno barvo za barvo na naših stenah od osnovne rdeče-oranžno-rumeno-zeleno-modro-vijolično izbire.

V angleškem jeziku smo poskušali razbiti koncept ljubezni malo ... imamo "ni všeč, tako kot kot prijatelja, kot so kot so, ljubezen, ona je tista," itd ... vendar te delitve še vedno ne naredi zelo dobro delo pri zastopanju, kako ljubezen resnično deluje ali če se počuti. Zdi se, da bo vplivala pravljice in hollywood filmov, kjer je glavni znaki so "samo prijatelja", dokler nekega dne so končno spoznali, da so "v ljubezni« (kako romantično) in strastno, da izjavi, da drug drugemu.

Zdi se, da s pomočjo logike in izkušnje, da je ljubezen dejansko deluje, kot so barve, na spektru. Začne se na 0, nato pa se je neskončno količino ravni vse do ne glede na največjo zmogljivost za ljubezen.

Z drugimi besedami, morda ste pravkar srečal nekoga in se počutite malo iskra in imajo nekaj ljubezni do njih na ... recimo ... 30 točk, nato pa po nekaj datumov, če imate trdne zdrobite na njih v vašem 70 ... Nato, potem ko je skupaj za nekaj časa in res sodijo za seboj svoj pri 130 ... potem, ko je prepričan, da so odlično eno in želiš biti skupaj za vedno, vas bo morda na 200 ... potem pa po velikem boju o nečem, pomembno, da spusti do 160 ... ali po 10 letih zakona, ko ste rastejo v različne smeri boste počasi premaknite navzdol do 60 ...

Razmišljate o tem na tak način ... ne pa z vidika vklopiti ali izklopiti način ... samo naredi tako bolj smiselno ...

Ljubezen in romantični / zanimanje za spolnost, so prav tako popolnoma različni stvari ... vsi smo vedeli, da se lahko spolno privlači, da nekdo, ki ga ne ljubim in obratno ... a ni ljubezen isto?

Mogoče, ko srečate privlačno neznanec v bar vaš romantični interes je pri 100, vendar vaša ljubezen je blizu 0 ... ali za isti spol prijatelj ali družinski član lahko vaša ljubezen je na 100 in romantično interes 0 ... in morda, ko sta dva dolgo časa, moški / ženski prijatelji napil in nekaj romantičnih zgodi ... sta morali ljubezen do 60 in romantično interes 30 za seboj .... ampak alkohol pospešila, da je romantičen interes mimo praga.

Predstavljajte si, da zadnje razmere na stari način razmišljanja o tem ... in kako zapleteno, da bi bilo:

"O moj bog ... smo bili" samo prijatelja ", zato nismo radi drug drugega ... potem pa smo dobili romantična ... tako da ... Ali to pomeni, da smo na skrivaj ljubila med seboj, preden? Ali to pomeni, da moramo ljubiti drug drugega zdaj? je naše prijateljstvo uničena zdaj? Lahko smo še vedno samo prijatelja potem to zgodilo? je naš odnos spremenilo sedaj? "

Tovrstna razmišljanja je tako zaviti in omejena in nenaravno ... ni smisla, da me.

Ko sem bil na Kitajskem, sem se družim s temi 3 lepe kitajske deklice. Vsak od njih je fante, tako da ni nikoli nič zgodilo med nama ... ampak če bi bil jaz če sem iskren, bi moram reči, sem jih ljubil vse kot prijatelji ... recimo na 70 ... pa sem imel tudi romantično zanimanje zanje vse kot dobro ... mogoče 60 ...

V "normalni" način razmišljanja, to bi lahko bilo zapleteno situacijo ... hollywood bi rekel, da ne moreš ljubiti nekoga in tudi v redu s tem, da prijatelji, hkrati pa ... Jaz bi moral dati niti moja čustva na stran in samo " se prijateljev, da bi preprečili prijateljstva ne bi uničil ... ali pa bi moral iti samo za to, in priznam svoje občutke in jih poskušati pridobiti ...

... To je popolna neumnost, čeprav ... Zakaj bi bilo treba enega ali drugega? Zakaj smo programirani, da mislijo na ta način? Bil sem popolnoma redu ljubeč ta dekleta kot prijatelji in prav tako zainteresirani za njih romantično ... zakaj ne? Mislim, da ta koncept samo zdi tako čudno, ker o tem, kako poskušamo postaviti ideje o ljubezni v teh omejenih kategorij.

Resnica je, ko ste prenehali vaš um od poskusov za kategorizacijo vse, in spraviti vse v svoje polje ... alternativa se zdi toliko bolj naravno.

Upam, da se zdi precej očitno, na tej točki, da je ljubezen in romantično interes deluje bolj kot spektra kot svetlobno stikalo ... ampak kako pogosto se naša navada ga obravnavajo kot lahka stikalo težave povzročajo ali zmedo?

Kaj pa v novih odnosov? Ker ta posnetek iz "How I Met Your Mother" kaže, smo se toliko teže na prvi, ko nekdo pravi: "Ljubim te", in če so to rekli prehitro, kot njegov super čudni!

Kaj pa po razpadu ... za par, ki še vedno želi ostati prijatelji, potem ... Vprašanje, ki se neizogibno pojavi na neki točki "Ali še vedno me ljubiš?" Je tako zapleteno, da odgovor! To se je zgodilo z mojim ex ... in je problem ... ker nisem hotel nadaljevati odnos ... sem moral reči "ne", čeprav jaz še vedno ljubezen in skrb o njej veliko. Kasneje sem potem poravnana z »Še vedno te imam kot prijatelja.", Vendar, kot je ... kdo sem jaz hecam? To ni, kot je postala maščob in grda v trenutku in sem izgubil vse romantično atrakcija za njo ... Resnica je bolj zapletena ... Mogoče sem enkrat jo ljubil na 150, in zdaj je več 90 ali nekaj takega ... in logično vem, jaz ne t želijo odnosa nadaljevati ... ampak jaz še vedno romantično zanimanje za njo, in skrbi za njo ...
... Vendar je jasno, kako zapletena in omejevalna in nenaravno poskuša odgovoriti na ta lahka stikalo ljubezen vprašanj.

Kaj pa ljubezen do tujcev? Sem velik oboževalec ideje o ljubezni soseda tiste, širijo mir in srečo in prijaznosti do tujcev ... celo enost smo vsi na tem svetu skupaj, ljubezen do človeške rase ... Ampak stvar, kot so, tudi pisno to, kar me zvok čudno, ker je vse skupaj lightswitch ... Jaz sem samo govoril o kot 5-10 na lestvici ljubezni ... to ni nič resnega!

Sem počel brez objemov dogodek v Toronto poleti. Širjenje srečo objemov z neznanci ... Ampak nato pa en fant prišel do mene in rekel: "Oprostite dude, jaz ne ljubim, sem samo vam je všeč." In namesto da bi ponudil mi je stisk roke. Bilo je fino in vse, vendar sem spoznala, lahka stikalo kategorije, v njegovih mislih ... V svojih mislih svoje čudno, da ljubezen neznanci, ampak fino, da jih, kot so ... in na vrhu, da so ... objemov rezervirana samo za ljudi, ki imate radi ... hmmm ...

Tukaj je še eno vprašanje kitajske dekleta, kot da mi test z ko govorimo o kulturi in zmenkov. Vedno me sprašujejo ... "Ali je prav, da imajo spolne odnose z nekom, preden se zaljubiš?" Potem sem močno ocenjevala glede na odgovor dam.

Problem je, da je celotno vprašanje napačna! Prva predpostavlja, da je ljubezen niti vklopiti ali izklopiti ... in drugič, predpostavlja, da sta ljubezen in seks soodvisni. Velik sodb mojega značaja, so pa, ki jih ta dekleta ..., ko je žalostna resnica je njihov celoten način razmišljanja temelji na napačnih predpostavkah.

Zakaj torej skušamo popraviti te kompleksne ideje o ljubezni in romantike v malo ali izključiti kategorije, ... No, kot sem omenil na začetku, ljudje radi, da to storijo na vseh področjih življenja, saj večino časa, da je koristno ... ampak po drugi strani pa zaradi vpliva na naš jezik, kot last post govoril o tem. V našem jeziku svojih bodisi »ljubim te« ali »Ne« smo bodisi "samo prijatelja" ali "Mi smo dating" ... Resnica je ... na žalost zaradi našega jezika svoje težko govoriti o ljubezni, vse druge način ... Nihče od nas želijo hitrost, kako zelo ljubimo svoje prijatelje na številko lestvici ... in seveda bi številke pomenijo različne stvari različnim ljudem ... Ampak ključno je, da ne pustite poenostavitve našega jezika, da nam pozabiti osnovni kompleksnosti te stvari ... da ne pozabimo na realnost in resnico naše občutke zaradi nekaterih Holly-les ideje o tem, kaj je ljubezen ... in da bi poskušali v naši moči, da prenehate razmišljati v teh omejevanju zmedeno in izklop pogoji ...

... In morda namesto ... samo pošteno in odkrito sledijo prave občutke v naših srcih ... brez kakršnih koli omejitev, pričakovanja ali pravil.

V zadnjem času mojega študija jezika mandarin me je pripeljala do nove teorije.

Kot Prepričan sem, da veste, različni jeziki imajo različne načine za razlago nekaterih pojmov in idej ... in celo z drugimi besedami ali konceptov, ki so popolnoma odsotni v drugih, ki so ...

Govoril sem moj kitajski ex-girlfriend danes in jo vprašal, kako reči "priložnostno dating" v kitajščini ... kje ste mimogrede dating 1 ali več ljudi, vendar vaša niso resni še ... vaši ne izključno na točki še ... preden obstaja treba skrbeti za obveznosti ali kaj podobnega.

in na moje presenečenje mi je povedala ... "To je dobesedno nemogoče reči v kitajski."

Rekla je, "imamo le Jian mian, kar pomeni, da se sestanejo z nekom (vendar se večinoma uporablja za nič opraviti s prijatelji dating) ali imamo yue Hui, ki je kot resna izključno fanta in dekle dating."

Potem sem spoznala ... (iz mojih izkušenj, ki živijo na Kitajskem), to je točno, kako skoraj vsi kitajski ljudje mislijo ... ki jih potrebujete, da bo res res všeč nekdo, preden lahko greš na dan z njimi ... in ga je treba izključno in resno od zaslužiti go ...

To pa me je spomnil na vse čase sem poskušal govoriti o zamisli o priložnostne zmenkov s kitajskimi dekleti in jima me obtožujejo, da so umazane tujec, ki si želela igrati z dekletom ...

... Pa sem mislil ... čeprav je kitajsko kulturo so izpostavljeni temu idejo priložnostne zmenkov prek medijev in vsi njihovi ameriški tv oddaje, večina od njih še vedno ne razumejo idejo ... ali mislite, da svoje popolnoma nenavadno in nesprejemljivo.

Torej, moja teorija je, ... je, da je jezik bolj pomembno kot mislimo ... da je jezik sam je dejansko ustvarjanje / ohranjanje tega kulturnega obnašanja ... in to zato, ker nimajo niti besede za opis tega ... to je avtomatično tako čudno tuja stvar ... in da se zdi normalno, je skoraj nemogoče.

Če je ideja sama po sebi sploh ni prisotna v njihovem jeziku ... kako bi bilo normalno ali naravna stvar? Kako da ne more avtomatično označeni kot čudno privzeto?

Deluje drugače preveč ... na Kitajskem, so nekaj, kar ti shanghuo 上火 (začetek ognja?) ... In ker nimamo besed za opis tega koncepta v našem jeziku svojih skoraj nemogoče za nas, da dobim ...

To je povezano z ravnotežje Yin in Yang in je simptom, ki se pojavi, ko salda ni Wack ... povzroči bolečine v grlu in drugih stvari ... in ima opraviti z nekaterimi izbiro prehrane ... in prav ima opraviti z razjezi o stvareh, ... To me je kot en teden, da ga razumemo v tej opredelitvi in ​​se še vedno zdi tako tuje, da me.

Toda ta ideja shanghuo je tako velik del njihovega vsakdana. Vsakdo razume in sprejema to kot samo očitna. Ko sem jim povedal, nimamo shanghuo bodo verjetno mislim svoje, kot čudno je, kako čudno se mi zdi, da nimajo priložnostno dating.

Mislim, da je verjetno, da prvotno kulturo ustvaril jezika, zdaj pa mislim, da je jezik, je ohranjanje kulture.

Drug primer je "Wenti" To pomeni vprašanje, in to tudi pomeni, problem.Chinese ljudje res ne marajo, da vprašanje, stvari ali njihovi šefi ali oblasti ... Niso spodbuja, da postavljajo vprašanja v šoli, ali na vprašanje ideje drugih ... Morda zato, ker vsak "vprašanje" ima enak pomen kot "problem"

Koliko lastnega vedenja se oblikujejo jezik, v katerem jih uporabljamo. Vidimo lahko, nazorne primere, ko gre za abstraktne pojme, kot so "ljubezen" ... temelji na našem jeziku smo pogosto govorili o ljubezni kot eno ali drugo ali izključite stikalo. Ali ste v ljubezni ali vaši ne. Toda stvari v resnici niso nikoli res, da je črno-bele, je vedno tako veliko sivih odtenkih ... ampak lahko vidite, kako je naše vedenje v odnosih, ki jih ta ideja.

Ko smo spoznali, da je vsak sam misli in koncept v naših glavah verbalized z uporabo jezika sva bila postavljena s, kako pomembno je naš jezik postaja vse bolj očitna. Koliko realnem svetu konceptov, so tam zunaj v drugih jezikih, ki nimamo izrazov v angleščini? Kolikokrat smo poenostavljam preveč abstraktne koncepte, kot dobro in zlo, ki jih uporabljajo posamezne besede, da jih opisali? Kot svetu, polnem slepi ljudje nikoli ne bi vedeli, da so manjkajoči vid ... Kakšne vrste konceptov in idej nam manjka, ker nimamo besed, da jih opisali?

Študije so pokazale, da jezika ne vpliva samo na tem, kako razmišljamo, ampak tudi naše zaznavanje gibanja, dojemanje čustev, predmet zastopanja, in celo spomin.

Eden izmed mojih najljubših knjig, ki jih Malcolm Gladwell z naslovom "Osamelci", kaže, da govorci kitajski Cantonese imajo veliko lažje času pomnjenje dolge nize števil, saj vsako številko je krajša izgovorjavo, da je njeno angleško enako ... kar njihov kratkoročni spomin, da imajo več mest v kratkem času. Jaz preizkušen to jasno, medtem ko na Kitajskem in tudi dobil zmečkali Cantonese moj prijatelj!

Ali jezika res oblik vedenja ali ne, in v kakšnem obsegu še ni dokazano, pa prinaša cel kup smislu, in lahko pomaga razložiti nekaj težav imam pri razumevanju moji kitajski prijatelji in kako mislijo.

Zanimive stvari ... povej mi svoje misli ~

Pomemben del razumevanja sveta in vseh njegovih crazyness je empatija.

Če lahko mi sami dajo v čevlje drugega in razumeti življenje iz svojih perspektive lahko naredimo velike korake pri razumevanju vedenja ljudi po vsem svetu.

Morali bi poskusiti razumeti, da so vsi ljudje so le to, kar mislijo, da je treba storiti, da bi bil srečen. To je cilj, da vsakdo strinja, vendar pa lahko nešteto vplivi okolja vplivajo je izražen v različnih ljudi.

Lačni denarja CEO, teroristični, podkupljive vlade uradno, mučenca, nuna ... Če hočemo razumeti te ljudi moramo razumeti, če je njihov trenutni način razmišljanja prišel. in to moramo razumeti različne vplive, ki so oblikovale, ki so v njihovem celotnem življenju na tej zemlji.

Poleg manjše genetske vplive, ki jih je mogoče premagati, se ljudje ne rodijo dobra ali slaba, poškodovana ali čisti, ali katero koli lastnost, jih pripisujemo osebnosti. So oblikujejo svet, v katerem živimo, informacije, ki jih imajo, spretnosti, ki so jih razvili, miselnost, ki so programirana v njih skozi svoje izkušnje in situacije so bili izpostavljeni.

Na žalost ne moremo vzeti oseba in izkušnje, kaj so doživeli in videli, kaj so videli in so naše misli oblikujejo njihov način so bili ... pa lahko storimo le malo poskusov mislil, da si na nas, kaj bi bilo, kot da raste v različnih časih in situacijah in ki se oblikujejo v različnih okoljih.

S tem empatije lahko začnemo razumeti vedenje drugih ..., ki pa ne pomeni, da bi morali izgovor, opravičevati ali obsodijo ravnanje, vendar vsaj moramo ga razumeti.

Neverjetno govoriti na tem področju, ki sem jih videl v zadnjem času je s Sam Richards imenuje radikalen eksperiment empatije.

Oglejte si ga spodaj.

Ali ta pogovor vam pomaga razumeti vaše soljudi malo bolje?

Vsi smo že slišali vprašanje, preden:

"Ali denar prinese srečo?"

in smo vsi slišali različne odgovore. Slišali smo od milijonarjev se nesrečen, smo slišali za ljudi z nič pa neverjetno srečna. in na drugi strani vidimo, premožni ljudje zadovoljni z bogastva na vseh področjih njihovega življenja, in ljudje, ki so tako slabe, da neskončno trpijo zaradi nje.

Mnogi od nas menijo, da če bi imeli več denarja, bi bili mi srečnejši ... skoraj vsi dobili navdušeni nad idejo o zmagi na loteriji, znaten dvig vedno zdi kot dobra stvar ... Vendar smo tudi spoznali najboljše stvari v življenju so brezplačne . Gremo kampiranje pobegniti od materialnega sveta. Vidimo težave slo za denar ustvarja na svetu.

Torej, kaj se dogaja tukaj? Zakaj je prišlo, kot konflikt med idejo denarja in sreče?

To je moja teorija, da je problem z sprašuje vprašanje: "Ali denar prinese srečo« je, da je vprašanje napačno. Moja ideja je, da denar ne nanaša neposredno na srečo na vseh ... in če razmerje obstaja, njeno zelo šibko v najboljšem primeru.

Denar se pa zdi, da imajo neposreden 1-1 odnos, ki nekaj podobnega ... Nekaj, kadar se uporabljajo učinkovito, lahko ustvarite srečo, ali če so omejeni ali ne izvaja pravilno, da lahko povzroči nesrečo ... kar bi pojasniti, zakaj se ljudje s podobno stopnjo denarja o teh nasprotnih straneh sreče spektra.

To 1-1 odnos, je odnos med denarjem in svobodo.

Razmislite o tem. Več denarja oseba, več svobode, ki so jih. In manj denarja oseba, manj svobode, ki so jih. Odnos je neposredna in popolna.

Na slabe strani spektra izgubite svobodo, da živijo v vrsto hiše, ki jo želite, voziti vrsto avtomobila, ki jo želite ali celo lasten avto, da vaš otrok v vrstah šol, ki jo želite, dobiti ustrezne zdravstvene oskrbe (v nekaterih državah), nimate svobodno potovanje, in če dobiš slabo dovolj morda ne boste niti za svobodno kupujejo hrano in preživetje. Ko denar pade na 0 in brez drugih vmesnih dejavnikov, lahko izgubijo tudi pravico do življenja, kot sto tisoč pa po vsem svetu vsak dan.

Na nasprotni strani spektra, ki imate te prosimo, da vidimo svet, kupujejo stvari, ki jih želijo, da bi več denarja precej enostavno, imajo najboljše zdravstvene oskrbe, najvarnejši varnost, dobili najboljšo izobrazbo, imajo največ prostega časa, so najboljše izkušnje, nadzor nad drugimi, z dovolj denarja, da morda celo lahko presegajo pravila zakona, ki jih plačujejo off lokalnih organov pregona.

in tisti, na sredini imajo povprečno stopnjo svobode na teh področjih.

Zdaj seveda lahko nekatere od teh dejavnikov se nanašajo na svobodo sreče, vendar pa lahko jasno vidimo, da je razmerje med denarjem, je neposredno svobode in ostalo je le po učinku, da je.

Zdaj, ko smo sprejeli, da je denar = svoboda in pomanjkanje denarja = pomanjkanje svobode lahko začnemo opažati nekaj precej off dajanje. Vsi smo rojeni brez denarja, tako da smo vsi rojeni z resno pomanjkanje svobode, (poleg svobode naši starši zagotavljajo, da nas) ... v bistvu smo vsi rojeni v svet suženjstvo, kjer moramo zaslužiti našo svobodo skozi nešteto ur izobraževanja in trdo delo.

Zdaj seveda nekateri od nas so imeli srečo in rojeni v družine, ki že vsebujejo visoko stopnjo svobode, tako da bomo lahko imeli veliko težav našo svobodo, ki nam ... ali pa se lahko daje velike možnosti, da zaslužijo nekaj naše lastne svobode dokaj preprosto ... Ampak žalostna resnica je večina niso tako srečni in veliko planet je rodil v družini, ki imajo malo ali nič svobodo za rezervne.

Na podlagi tega razumevanja lahko vidimo, da je naša svoboda neposredno, omejena z zneskom denarja, ki jih imamo. Zdaj ko je večina od nas v bogatih državah imajo dovolj veliko količino svobode, ki nam v resnici ne čutijo naša svoboda je vse, kar omejena (razen za naše 9-5 delovna mesta, v katerem smo sprejeli kot normalno in potrebno) smo po vsem svetu že videli težave s to povezavo. Velik problem pri tem razmerju je ideja dolga, ki smo jih ustvarili.

Denar je v bistvu ustvarjen iz tankih zraka skozi frakcijsko rezerve bančnega sistema, in ga je treba vrniti. Vendar, ko je uporaba obrestnih dal na vrhu je, da je manj denarja, ki obstajajo od tistega, ki ga je treba vrniti. To ima za posledico, da je treba dodati več in več denarja v sistem in povzroči manjšo vrednost za vsak dolar, in potreba, da se kopičijo več in več za ohranitev našega stopnjo svobode. Po drugi strani pa to ustvarja višje in višje dolgove in vse manj in manj posvetne svoboščine.

V primeru, da nisem pri čemer je jasno ... «Če bi bili vsi dolgovi na svetu obrestovala, če ne bi bil en dolar v obstoj"

To seveda pomaga pojasniti, zakaj je dolg ZDA je več kot 14 milijard dolarjev ... in raste.

Eno od vprašanj, upam, da ta članek zastavlja, je: "Kaj bi bilo treba vrsto svoboščin univerzalni za ljudi?" In seveda je treba to vprašanje obravnavati z vidika, da je denar = svoboda. Če bi ljudje se rodijo s svobodo, da imajo dostop do hrane in vode? Ali pa bi morala biti svoboda, da se je treba boriti in si prislužil? Naša trenutna minimalna stopnja svobode na zemlji, je v nekaterih državah blaginje, nekaj brezdomcev programe in stvari, kot da je v bogatih državah, in praktično nič, ampak občasno hrane pogon za več sto tisoč v revščini po vsem svetu. S tehnologijami, ki obstajajo, kot so vodna / aquaponics, earthship domove, super-kondenzatorji, obnovljivih virov energije, in nešteto nešteto drugih, bi morali res tako nizko privzeto stopnjo svobode, na zemlji?

Še ena stvar, da razmisli je naša najvišja stopnja svobode. Trenutno je naša najvišja raven svobode, ki temelji na tem, koliko denarja imamo. Ocenjeno število milijonarjev na svetu, (ljudje z dobro kupčijo, vendar daleč od zneska neomejene svobode), je 10.000.000, ki je le 0,15% prebivalstva sveta. Ali je to najboljši sistem, da bi morali biti oprla našo svobodo off? Ena, ki zagotavlja le precej svobode pri 0,15% na svetu?

Torej, kako lahko naredimo bolje?

Kaj pa, če namesto da bi bila naša svoboda ni omejena z denarjem, ampak omejena s stanjem našega tehnološkega napredka in sredstev, na zemlji. Kaj pa, če je svoboda, da bi jedli ne temelji off, koliko denarja je imela oseba, ampak to, koliko hrane bi lahko skupna prizadevanja na svetu proizvajajo s pomočjo napredne tehnologije? Kaj pa, če je bil za svobodno potovanje ne temelji off denar, ampak koliko avtomatizirane sisteme obnovljivih virov energije, transporta bi lahko ustvarili?

To je le nejasno nerazložljive površino praska idej ta vlak misli proizvaja, toda ostalo je daleč presega obseg tega članka. Ena stvar, lahko vidimo, je, da namesto da bi našo svobodo, ki temelji off denarja in naraščajoče dolgove, ki so Mori sistema, če je naša svoboda temelji off napredka v tehnologiji in znanosti, da bi vedno raste in se razvija. V bistvu bi vsi ljudje na planetu postala bolj in bolj prost, kot je naša tehnologija izboljšuje še in še. Zdaj, da je zanimivo.

Vlak misli sem se nanašajo na tiste pri Resource temelječega gospodarstva. Intro, da te ideje si lahko ogledate tukaj:

V primeru, da vaš-ne kupujejo celo "smo vrsta sužnjev" stvar, tukaj je še en zanimiv vidik o zamisli o tem, kako mi nismo zelo brezplačno:

V bližini je sredi junija, sem se vrnil domov v Kanado po 1 leto in 9 mesecev na Kitajskem, za lepo kanadski poletne počitnice.

Resnično sem želela, da osvežite svoj um z znanim po porabi toliko časa tako različne kulture, in sem res želela videti svojo družino in prijatelji znova.

Prihaja spet doma je bila čudna izkušnja. Pravijo, da povratne kulturni šok, ampak za mene je bilo toliko, kot šokantno, da je samo čudno. Prihaja domov je bilo razburljivo v nekaterih pogledih in vznemirljiva v drugih. Celotna izkušnja, ki prihajajo domov ni počutila resnično na prvi. Najboljši način, da ga je opisati, da sem ves čas počutil, kot sem sanjal in da se vsako sekundo bom zbudil in se nazaj na Kitajskem.

Kitajska je postala moja realnost, in Kanadi, čeprav poznajo, čutil drugače. Prazne ulice, široko odprte prostore, narava, mirno stanovanjskih območjih ... je vse zdelo malo novega, da me. Jaz definitivno cenijo nekatere stvari, pred tem nikoli nisem zares mar, medtem ko na Kitajskem. Me je očarala s tem, kako lepo soseski okoli moje hiše pogledal. Opazil sem, koliko več ptic in veveric in stvari okoli. Prvič sem lahko razumel pogovorov z neznanci, in kramljanje od ljudi okoli mene govorimo o postalo zelo zanimivo.

Greš v trgovino počutil res čudno ... sem lahko govoriti, da blagajnik v angleščini tekoče ... Ona bi me obravnavajo tako kot kdorkoli drug ... To je povsem normalno vendar je menil, res nekaj posebnega.

Moje domače mesto je polno različnih kultur in je bilo kul videti toliko različnih ljudi išče na istem območju ... Na Kitajskem je večina ljudi zelo podobna. Ljudje zdelo veliko težji, kot tudi Kitajci so skoraj vse super skinny.

Going do Toronto me je tako pritegnila vse zanimivo videti ljudi z tetovaže in barvane lase in piercingi in alternativno modo sem hotel govoriti, da vse od njih samo da bi videli, kaj so o tem.

Videti mojo družino in prijatelji je bil res lepo ... večina od njih je ostal popolnoma enak, vendar nekatere pa so se spremenili v precej velik načine. Vprašanje, ki sem dobil od vsakega posameznika, kako se je Kitajska "vedno čutil, da ni mogoče odgovoriti. I knew from my time in Thailand that I would never be able to pass on my experiences in China to anyone else… telling stories about China pass on no more of my experiences than hearing news reports pass on the experience of the events.

Coming home, besides giving me a greater appreciation of Canada actually gave me a greater appreciation of China as well. Running into situations like a needing to go to a beer store… or getting a fishing licence or fire permit… or dealing with bouncers at clubs… and the vast space between everything making cars almost a necessity… or not being able to walk out of my house at 1am and find something to eat or drink… all made me appreciate the convenience and casualness of China a lot more. Canada has so many rules and regulations and restrictions and social expectations and… well these things just don't exist in China… I told many friends to their surprise that so called communist China feels a lot more free to me than Canada.

After about 3 weeks all the strangeness of Canada began to disappear. Canada became my reality again, and now China seemed like a dream. I caught up with all my friends and family, ate all the foods I missed, did the things I hadn't done in years… Then really just enjoyed my vacation while it lasted. I tried not to spend any money whenever possible because of how expensive everything is in Canada, and still ended up spending way more money than I would have liked. I cringe on the inside every time I have to share a $15 pitcher of beer as my mind compares it to the 10-cent beers that I had while in Aojiang or the 90-cent pints we used to get at the bar in Shunde.

I spent hours and hours on youtube relishing the freedom of unblocked youtube videos… and am happy that after 2 years of not having access to it, I now only use facebook about 10% of the time that I used to.

People say I pronounce some words with an accent now… I don't really notice it.

I decided to really improve my Mandarin during the summer, so I began studying a few hours a day on it. This makes the idea of going back to China much more exciting as it will open up a lot more possibilities for me.

People have asked me how I've changed the most since before and after my trip… but I've had a little trouble answering it. The changes from my perspective have happened gradually and its hard for me to really remember exactly what I was like before I left. I'm sure if I could teleport my mind between the pre and post China Devin the difference would be pretty staggering. I think if I tried to some it up into a few points I would say.

• I'm far more confident. I care what other people think about me a lot less than I used to.
• I totally embrace all the strange things about myself now, and have little interest in normal people.
• I'm far more educated and interested in world issues. Understanding human behaviour and the workings of society is really interesting to me. I question everything now and try to get a root understanding of it all.
• I feel more easily frustrated with other people and the way they think and act in (from my perspective) detrimental ways.
• I approach things from a much more scientific logical mentality than I used to.
• I value unique people a lot more
• I'm into many new types of music and lost interested in some of my old favourites.
• I now know I can never go back to a typical 9-5 job.
• I try to remove all aspects of my culture from who I am and instead just look at logic and reality and what works and what makes people happy.
• I'm no longer sure if I ever want to get married.
• I think I also feel the heaviness of the world a lot more strongly now.
• I have better social skills, and more interest/enthusiasm in social interactions. I really enjoy a good deep discussion with people.
• I try to cut through all the BS out there and live in really authentic honest ways. I'd rather be honest with someone and have them not like me than keep my feelings to myself.
• I'ma lot less patriotic and a lot less into following sports.
• I have a bigger appreciation for the simple things, playing volleyball with friends, sitting around a campfire with a nice drink, walking at night, looking at the stars, and stuff like that.

I think that's about it.

Če pogledamo nazaj na Kitajsko, se počutim veliko čudnih občutkov o tem. While I was in China I lived for an extended period of time in 5 different places… plus the countless travel experiences. In each one of these places I did different things for money, had different friends a different environment and different experiences… It really feels like I lived 5 or more different lives while in China… and now that I'm back in Canada looking back on them all is a bit of a mind trip. In each new place you settle into, it becomes your new reality. Your mind adapts to it and it is your new situation and the you inside that situation is the new you. Sure we have memories that link it all together… but the feeling of each place, seems to be lost after each time you go somewhere new… That feeling only comes back to me if I smell a certain smell or hear a certain song that I strongly associate with each place, and it only comes back for a moment. It's hard to explain and maybe needs to be experienced to be understood. I wonder how many different lives most people live… how often they just pack up and move across country away from their homes… maybe in these 2 years I experiences as many different lives as some people do in their entire lifetime? Now that each of these lives are over and I'm back in Canada, trying to remember them makes each one of them feel kind of unreal… Did they really happen? Of course they did I have pictures, and friends and blog posts… but besides these little mementos what is really left? I don't expect others to understand the strangeness of it… but writing about it makes me feel better.

I lived mostly out of my backpack in China and the freedom was wonderful. I wonder how many different lives I will live this time I leave my home.

It's been 2 and a half months now since I've been home. A part of me is really eager to go back, and a part of me wants to stay in Canada and hang out with my friends forever and give up the whole crazy idea of making it in another country again…

…ya right!

We all know which part of me will win

My flight is booked for Sep. 26th

Tako kot vsakdo, včasih lahko dobim malo navzdol.

Včasih obstaja dober razlog za to, in včasih ni. Pravo vprašanje je, kaj morate storiti glede tega? Če je njegov položaj, ki lahko sprejme neke vrste ukrep, da se določi, potem gre za to, ukrepati, narediti nekaj sprememb. Other times it's not so simple, maybe there's nothing you can do about your situation, and perhaps you don't even know why your feeling down in the first place.

That was the case with me the other day. I was feeling down for no good reason, I didn't really know why, and I didn't really care. I just felt mildly depressed, and the truth is I didn't even feel like cheering myself up. For some reason it felt as if wallowing in my blue feeling was the only thing that I should do. Logically I knew I could probably cheer myself up but it was almost as if I didn't even want to feel better.

I think these are the times when your emotions kind of feel like a drug. You feel addicted to them and you don't really want them to go away even though you know the alternative is better. So there I sat on some stairs in Guilin, with my head resting on my fist, looking out into the world I wasn't happy in, feeling miserable.

Just at that time an old lady walked up to me with a huge heavy looking bag over her shoulder. She had a back problem and was bent over at the waist, almost at a 90-degree angle and walked slowly under the weight of what she carried. While I should have thought something along the lines of “well at least I have my health to be happy about, not like this poor woman” instead my thoughts said “oh great, here comes an annoying beggar to bother me for money.”

The lady walked up to me and held out her hand, and just as I was about to turn away I noticed that she simply wanted to collect the empty water bottle I was holding. She was one of the ladies that made their away around town collecting hundreds of plastic bottles in order to trade them in for enough to get by. I handed the bottle to her and expected her to then ask me for some change, but she didn't, and instead she thanked me twice… and with a really sincere, appreciative look in her eyes and walked away.

I felt a stroke of admiration, this lady has serious health problems, but instead of sitting down on the street and begging for money like so many others in China she trucks on, and carries heavy bags of what she collects around the city, working for herself to get by. I sat there a little stunned as I watched the lady slowly walk away carrying her heavy load with her.

“I want to do something nice for this lady,” I thought.

She put her bags down next to a building and hobbled down the street looking for more bottles to collect. I realized if I wanted to make this woman happy I couldn't just go give her some money, as she might feel insulted since she works hard for every penny she gets without being a beggar. Instead I had to think of a way to give her what she needed without her knowing she received any charity. I formulated my plan.

I waited for the lady to enter a small ally before I made my move. I sneaked over to where her heavy bags were and took some money out of my wallet. I lifted up the corner of one of her bags and slid the money underneath, and ran back to the stairs before being seen.

For the next 10 minutes I sat there with absolute focus waiting for the lady to return. My mind was clear of everything as I waited in excited anticipation. Eventually she made her way back to the bags. I stood up with excitement ready to see if she would find the money or not. I went behind a pillar for a better view. After 1 more minute of resting she picked up her heavy bags, then stopped. She reached down and grabbed the money I had hidden, and although her faced was turned away from me and I couldn't see her, I imagined a big *lucky* smile shine upon her face.

The lady had found more money in that lucky second than she would likely find all day. I imagined the rest of her day would be easier. Her bags wouldn't feel so heavy, there would be a lightness in her step because she had luckily stumbled upon some money. It must have felt like the universe was smiling on her. I felt great.

I would never see that woman again, never receive her thanks, or even see her smile but it didn't matter. I felt like I did something good for someone less fortunate than me, and it didn't contain any of the usual gratitude, which surprisingly made it feel really really good! The depression I felt earlier in the day was a faded memory. I was refreshed and renewed, the rest of my day felt sunny.

Torej, tam ga imate. When your feeling down, instead of trying to make yourself feel better, which can be difficult or which can even feel undesirable… instead make someone else feel good. Help cheer someone else up, or help someone that needs you. Lending a hand to someone less fortunate than you can give you a wonderful feeling, and if you make it into a fun event like I did it can completely lift your spirits.

Until next time, feel good!

Recently I've had the absolute privilege of checking out one of the most amazing places I have ever been in the world.

The Guilin Rice Terraces.

The Guilin Rice Terraces

My girlfriend Jen's mom decided to take us on an awesome trip to see the terraces in a small town that was about an hours drive from Guilin.

After driving on a windy mountain road for a long time we reached the base of the village where we were approached by a bunch of girls with turbins and huge baskets on their backs.

The baskets on their backs are used to carry heavy things up the mountains

Upon closer inspection however I noticed they weren't wearing turbins, but instead had incredibly long hair! In this village the tradition is that the longer a woman's hair, the more beautiful and worthy she is for marriage.

Brushing her hair our of the window

2 of the older village girls showing off their hair with us

Next we did the long hike into the village which was tiring with all of our heavy bags. When we reached the top however, to the little guest house on the mountain that we would be staying in, we were all blown away by the absolute beauty!

The view!

These terraces are used for growing rice, and have this distinct shape to make them efficient for watering (and also to allow the rice to be planted in such a remote location) each level of the terrace is flooded with water which trickles down to the layer below and to the layer below giving all of the rice on the mountain an even level of water. You can see a guy working on the field here:

Working hard on the rice fields

The entire experience was really nice. It was great to simply be secluded from the city, surrounded by mountains in all direction. Even just breathing the fresh air was incredibly refreshing to my system after spending so much time locked to my computer working on T-Shirt Design World.

The people of the village were very friendly and took wonderful care of us. The entire trip and guest house room was also incredibly cheap, as a single night was only 80rmb ($12.30). The food was wonderful, they had some really unique and delicious rice wine, and simply standing on the balcony and looking out at the marvel the rice terraces were, which must have been crafted into the mountains over generations… was truly phenomenal.

After visiting these rice fields, I officially declare Guilin my favorite travel destination in China. Not only does Guilin have these rice fields, they also have the amazing mountains and rivers of Yangshuo, Stunning caves, waterfalls, white water rafting, and so much more to see and do. It really is one of the most beautiful destinations on earth.

In my usual fashion I'll leave you all with a slide show!

I have to apologize for the lack of updates to this blog, but for the last couples of months I have been working diligently on creating my new business!, and when I say diligently I really mean diligently!.. in so bili dajanje v približno povprečno 10-12 dni delovnih ur skoraj vsak dan.

All the work however has produced a result that I am rather proud of, so I am excited to share (drum roll please)

T-Shirt Design World . com

T-Shirt Design World is a t-shirt website with a unique angle. It's about bringing together only the highest quality designs, made by artists who come from many different countries from around the world, with really affordable prices.

Right now at the time of launch all of our tees are $7-$10 and we already have 11 designers from 6 different countries!

The cool thing about having different designers from different countries is that you get a lot of different styles. Already T-Shirt Design World has cute silly tees, funny creative shirts, colorful bright t-shirts, cool stylish designs, and more.

Designers

How it works for our designers is that we pay them 40% of the profit for each shirt of theirs that we sell. When a designer is interested in joining we have him send us at least 5 samples of his work. If our T-Shirt judges approve at least 5 of them then we create a store page for them, with cool banners showing their style, and make their tees available for sale.

Check out our Design 4 Us page to learn more.

The Future

As with all new companies we expect the beginning of our store to start slow, but we hope to see continuous growth into the future. We have tons and tons of plans for how to make the store better and we will be working constantly to see it expand.

We hope to get designers from most countries of the world, and become the authority when it comes to finding interesting tees made from the people of the earth.

I personally also have a future vision for the website that is unfortunately too early to act out… and that is to have the website, once it is more successful, act as a sort of service to humanity. My future plans involve donating a percentage of all money made to help set up 'sustainable future' projects in the individual countries that the designers of the shirt come from.

This can be something as simple as, for example: 20% of all profit from t-shirt stores represented by Indonesian designers will go to a project of installing a windmill to help power an Indonesian orphanage.

While this example is a small one, it is a realistic one… and while the energy generated by a single windmill will not make much of a difference, the point is to raise awareness of the worlds needs to move towards implementing renewable, sustainable technologies.

Check us out!

Anyway, enough talk! I'll go ahead and post a slideshow showing different collages created using some designs from each artist.

or you can simply view the main website here

and if your a facebook junkie, View and 'like' our facebook page here !

here's the slideshow:

take care!

V zadnjem času so se Jen in sem odprla najin dom na kavču deskarje.

Couch-surfing je svetovno mrežo potnikov, ki so odprle svoje domove za (ali včasih samo izpolniti za pijačo), z drugimi potniki. If you haven't seen it before you should check it out!

We've had some great people stay with us, and one particularly interesting one was a Chinese man named Marvin whos stop at our place was part of his year long bike trip around China!

Marvin's been on the road for over 5 months now, and has tons of great experiences around China. He gave me the pleasure of giving him this interview for this talking to travelers series:

Marvin and his bike

In fact, at the beginning I was the type to follow the common Chinese life style. I was more reserved and not so outgoing. However in college I started to listen to rock music on the radio, then once I heard <Where did you sleep last night> by Nirvana, I started to change. I also had some friends who loved art and shared the same interests with me. We often talked about travel and the western music. So it started from music, then I gradually got to know about other aspects, which guided me in knowing what kind of life I wanted.

So after graduation, I left my hometown, and worked in Dalian for a year. At that time, I provided couch surfing for others many times. I heard their stories and experience, so it inspired me to get out there and look around for myself. Later I started to try many different jobs in different cities which began my travels.

Making it to Lasa (The Capital City of Tibet) has always been my dream. At the beginning I planned to travel there by bus. But the expenses are very high. So instead I found another way to travel there— by riding my bicycle. My habit is that when I have an idea, I will act on it, and let the experience of trying teach me how. I found that sometimes when we think too hard about something, in the end we will talk ourselves out of it. It's better just to act on our inspired ideas.

On the way I learned lots of things that I never had chance to learn before. It was more interesting than living in the city. But I also think about my parents when I travel for such a long time, so I decided that I will take a 1 year long trip, then after that, I will make money and help to give my family a better quality life. After that, I will travel again.

To save money, I try to stay with couch surfers. When I find locals willing to help, I can not only make lots of friends, but can also learn more about local cultures and customs.

On the way, I met man different people, experienced man different things and shared many different ideas. I see it as a kind of study. Also, I have enough time to think about it all on the way. The whole couch surfing experience really makes my trip rewarding.

1. Pomoč

Every day is new and new problems always arise. However sometimes I find strangers willing to help me. I feel grateful for this so I try to give a hand to others when they need it as well.
2. Perspective.

I've learned that in this world, there are many more good people than bad people. Chinese education always teaches us that bad people are everywhere. However if you experience the world for yourself, you will know the truth.

3. Sporočilo.

On the way I have met so many people that helped me. So it's been necessary to learn how to communicate in a proper way, because couch surfing is not merely living in hotels.

4. Less complaining.

Rather than complaining, it is better to save energy for the trip!

Loneliness

This loneliness is not only about being alone during the journey but really the hardest part is that no many people can support and understand it. Therefore I have to become stronger without caring about other people's opinions.
I am the owner of my life. I am the leader. So only I can feel and understand. Others are just the audience.

I've learned to appreciate, and learned to understand.

Some philosophies I've discovered while biking that can be applied to life follow:

“The harder it is to reach the top of the hill, the more you can relax as you coast down it. But please be careful about your speed.

When you are going downhill or uphill, you can not relax. But when you face these hills, it will challenge your limitations.

You will never know what is behind the next turn, the only way to know is to go forward and check.

When things get rough, hold on for one more second… you will see the first rays of sunrise.

Never mind what people will say, only your can feel your experiences, so only you have the right to say judge them.

There is always something that triggers the pieces of your memory.

Life is like the accelerator, you can set the speed of the ride.

We run to chase the setting sun, while only a little heat remains. Although we know that this little heat is not hot enough to warm our body, but just a little light can ignite our hearts when the darkness comes.

If you don't love yourself, don't expect others love you.

What you want is always more than what you achieve.

Taking picture is nothing to do with the camera. The key is if your eyes know how to catch beauty. This pair of eyes is in your heart.

Time is the best truth. So close your eyes and judge with your mind.

If you smile to the mirror, the mirror will smile to you.

When you watch the view from far, you see the mountains are there, the scenery is there. When you go closer you see, the mountain is still there but greater. When you go too close, you wonder where is the mountain?

It is the same with love.”

Everyday when I arrive at new destinations, they are all my best moments.

Chatting, cooking and parting with couch surfers and sharing my stories and pictures with my friends.

Thanks for the great interview Marvin! We can all learn from the philosophies you have discovered during your travels. We wish you the best of luck continuing your journey to Tibet!