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Vrste nadaljevanje mojega pošti o tem, kako jezik oblike vedenja bi rad govoril o tej ideji, ki ga imamo o ljubezni.

Mislim, kako mislimo in govorimo o ideji o ljubezni ... v resnici ne ujema z realnostjo, in dejansko povzroča nam veliko težav ali vsaj nekaj zmede.

Nas ljudje imajo navado, da zrušijo zapletene stvari na preprost, lahko prebavljivo dele. Mi lahko neskončno paleto barv najdemo v mavrico in ga delijo na osnovnih blokov rdeče-oranžno-rumeno-zeleno-modro-vijolična. Smo nagnjeni k razmišljanju o stvareh, kot so bodisi dobro ali slabo, če vemo, da je veliko sivo področje, med ... in mi stori enako, ko gre za ljubezen ... ali nekoga ljubiš ali pa ne ... to je tako kot lahka vklopite brez sivo območje.

Včasih je koristno, da bi prekinil stvari navzdol v njihovih osnovnih delov ..., da bi bilo cel kup manj primeren za opis barve na nebu kot 236 deli, modra, 206 delov zelene in 147 delov rdeče, kot bi photoshop opisati ... ampak problem nastopi, ko pozabimo, da so te kompleksnosti ... in potem smo prisiljeni izbrati popolno barvo za barve na naših stenah od osnovnih rdeče-oranžno-rumeno-zeleno-modro-vijolično izbire.

V angleškem jeziku skušamo razbiti koncept radi malo ... imamo "ni všeč, tako kot kot prijatelja, kot so kot so, ljubezen, ona je ena" itd ... ampak ti oddelki še vedno ne delajo zelo dobro delo pri zastopanju, kako ljubezen res deluje ali če se počuti. Zdi se, da bo vplivala pravljic in hollywoodskih filmov, kjer so glavni liki so "samo prijatelja", dokler nekega dne končno se zavedaš, da so "v ljubezni" (kako romantično) in strastno jo razglasi med seboj.

Zdi se, da s pomočjo logike in izkušenj, da je ljubezen pravzaprav deluje kot barv, na spektru. Začne se pri 0 in potem ima neskončno količino ravni vse do dokler ne glede na največjo zmogljivost za ljubezen je.

Z drugimi besedami, morda ste ga pravkar srečal nekoga in se počutiš malo iskro in imajo nekaj ljubezni do njih na ... recimo ... 30 točk, nato pa po nekaj datumov, če imate trdne zaljubljen v njih na svoj 70 ... Nato, potem ko je skupaj za nekaj časa in res sodijo za seboj vaš pri 130 ... potem, ko vaš prepričani, da so odlično 1 in želite, da bi skupaj za vedno boste morda na 200 ... potem pa po velikem boju okrog nečesa pomembnega ti spusti do 160 ... ali pa po 10 letih zakona, ko ste se gojijo v različnih smereh, boste počasi premaknite navzdol do 60 ...

Razmišljate o tem na tak način ... ne pa luč vklopite ali izklopite tako ... samo naredi tako bolj smiselno ...

Ljubezen in romantično / spolno zanimanje tudi popolnoma različni stvari ... vsi smo vedeli, da lahko spolno privlači nekdo ne ljubi in obratno ... pa ni ljubezen isto?

Mogoče, ko se srečate privlačno tujec v baru vaš romantičen interes je pri 100, vendar vaša ljubezen je blizu 0 ... ali za isti spol prijatelja ali družinskega člana lahko vaša ljubezen biti na 100, vendar romantičnega interesa 0 ... in morda kdaj 2 dolgo časa moški / ženski prijatelji napil in kaj se zgodi, romantična ... oba imel ljubezen do 60 in romantično zanimanje za 30. seboj .... ampak alkohol spodbudil, da je romantičen interes mimo praga.

Predstavljajte si, da je zadnje stanje v starem načinu razmišljanja o tem ... in kako zapleteno bi bilo:

"O moj bog ... smo bili" samo prijatelja ", tako nam ni všeč drug drugega ... ampak potem imamo romantično ... tako ... pa to pomeni, da smo na skrivaj ljubil pred seboj? to pomeni ljubimo med seboj zdaj? je naše prijateljstvo uničena zdaj? Lahko smo še vedno le prijatelji potem je to zgodilo? je spremenil naš odnos sedaj? "

To mišljenje je tako zapleten in omejen in nenaravno ... ni smisla, da me.

Ko sem bil na Kitajskem, sem se družim s temi 3 lepih kitajskih deklet. Vsak od njih je imela fante, tako da ni nikoli nič zgodilo med nama ... če pa bi bil, če sem iskren, bi moram reči, da sem jih ljubil vse kot prijatelji ... recimo na 70 ... pa sem imel tudi romantično zanimanje za njih vse kot No ... morda 60 ...

V tako imenovan normalen način razmišljanja bi bila to zapletena situacija ... Hollywood bi rekel, da ne moreš ljubiti nekoga, pa tudi v redu s tem, da prijatelji hkrati ... Jaz bi morali bodisi dal svoje občutke na stran in tako " biti prijateljev, da bi preprečili prijateljstva od tega, da uničil ... ali pa bi moral samo pojdi za njim in priznati svoje občutke in jih poskušati pridobiti ...

... To je skupna neumnost, čeprav ... Zakaj bi moralo biti eno ali drugo? Zakaj smo programirani, da mislijo na ta način? Bil sem povsem fino ljubiti ta dekleta kot prijatelji in prav tako zainteresirani za njih romantično ... zakaj ne? Mislim, da ta koncept samo zdi tako čudno, ker o tem, kako se trudimo, da dajo ideje o ljubezni v teh omejenih kategorij.

Resnica je, ko ste prenehali s vaš um poskuša kategorizirati vse, in vse, kar se prilega v škatlo ... alternativa se zdi toliko bolj naravno.

Upam, da se zdi precej očitno, na tej točki, da je ljubezen in romantično interes deluje bolj kot spektra kot svetlobnega stikala ... ampak kako pogosto pa naše navado, ga obravnavajo kot lahka stikalo težave povzročajo ali zmedo?

Kaj pa v novih razmerjih? Ker ta posnetek od "Kako I Met Your Mother" prikazuje, smo se toliko teže na prvo nekdo reče "ljubim te" in če ga prezgodaj reči, ki niso njegova super čudno!

Kaj pa po razpadu ... za nekaj, ki še vedno želi ostati prijatelji potem ... Vprašanje, ki se neizogibno pojavi na neki točki "Ali še vedno me ljubiš?" Je tako zapleteno, da odgovori! To se je zgodilo z mojim ex ... in je problem ... ker nisem hotel nadaljevati odnos ... sem moral reči "ne", čeprav sem še vedno rad in skrbi zanjo veliko. Kasneje sem potem poravnajo z "Še vedno te imam kot prijatelja.", Vendar je všeč ... kdo sem jaz hecam? To ni tako kot je postala maščobe in grd takoj in sem izgubil vse romantično privlačnost za njo ... resnica je bolj zapletena ... Morda bom nekoč jo ljubil na 150, zdaj pa je bolj za 90 ali kaj podobnega ... in logično vem Jaz ne Ne želim nadaljevati odnos ... ampak jaz še vedno romantično zanimanje za njo, in skrb za njo ...
... Vendar je jasno, kako zapletena in omejevalna in nenaravno poskuša odgovoriti na ta lahka stikalo ljubezenskih vprašanja biti.

Kaj pa ljubezen do tujcev? Sem velik oboževalec idejo ljubeče sosede naši, širjenje miru in sreče in prijaznosti do tujcev ... celo enost smo vsi na tem svetu skupaj, ljubezen do človeka stvar rase ... Ampak všeč, tudi pisno to, kar me sliši čudno, ker je vso stvar lightswitch ... Jaz sem samo govoril, kot 5-10 na lestvici ljubezni ... To ni nič resnega!

Sem počel brezplačno objeme dogodek v Torontu poleti. Širjenje srečo objemov z neznanci ... Potem pa en človek prišel do mene in rekel: "Žal mi je stari, jaz ne ljubim, sem samo vam je všeč." In namesto da bi ponudil mi je stisk roke. Bilo je fino in vse, vendar sem spoznala na svetlobno stikalo kategorij v spominu ... v spominu njegove čudne ljubiti neznanci, pa fino, da jih je všeč ... in na vrhu, da ... objame bodo rezervirane samo za ljudi, ki imate radi hmmm ... ...

Tu je še en vprašanje, kitajski dekleta rada, da me preizkusite s ko govorimo o kulturi in datiranjem. Vedno me sprašujejo ... "Ali je prav, da imajo spolne odnose z nekom, preden se zaljubiš?" Potem sem močno ocenjevala glede na odgovor dam.

Problem je, da je celotno vprašanje napačna! Prva je domneva, da je ljubezen niti vklopiti ali izklopiti ... in drugič, da predpostavlja, da sta ljubezen in seks soodvisni. Velik sodb mojega značaja se je v teh deklet ... ko je žalostna resnica je njihov celoten način razmišljanja temelji na napačnih predpostavkah.

Zakaj torej skušamo popraviti te kompleksne ideje o ljubezni in romantike v malo ali izključiti kategorije ... No, kot sem omenil na začetku, ljudje radi, da to storijo na vseh področjih življenja, saj večino časa, da je koristno ... ampak po drugi strani pa zaradi vpliva našem jeziku kot zadnje sporočilo govoril. V našem jeziku svoje bodisi "I love you" ali "jaz ne" Mi smo eno "Just Friends" ali "Mi smo dating" ... Resnica je ... na žalost zaradi našega jezika svoje težko govoriti o ljubezni katere koli druge način ... Nihče od nas želijo ocenili, kako zelo ljubimo svoje prijatelje na številko lestvici ... in seveda bi se številke pomenijo različne stvari za različne ljudi ... Ampak ključno je, da ne pustite, da poenostavitve našega jezika nam pozabiti osnovni Zapletenost teh stvari ... da ne pozabimo na realnost in resnico o naših čustev zaradi nekaterih Holly-les idej o tem, kaj je ljubezen ... in da bi poskušali v naši moči, da ustavi razmišljati v teh omejitev zmedeno in izklop glede ...

... In morda namesto ... samo pošteno in odkrito sledite prave občutke v naših srcih ... brez kakršnih koli omejitev, pričakovanja ali pravil.

V zadnjem času mojega študija jezika mandarine me je pripeljalo do nove teorije.

Kot sem prepričan, da veš, različni jeziki imajo različne načine za razlago nekaterih pojmov in idej ... in celo imajo različne besede ali pojme, ki so popolnoma odsotni v drugih tiste ...

Govoril sem na moj kitajski bivša punca danes in jo prosi, kako reči "priložnostno dating 'v kitajski ... kje ste mimogrede dating 1 ali več ljudi, ampak vam ni resne še ... tvoj ni v izključni točki še ... pred obstaja treba skrbeti za obveznosti ali kaj podobnega.

in na moje presenečenje mi je povedala ... "To je dobesedno nemogoče reči v kitajščini."

Rekla je, da "imamo le Jian mian, kar pomeni, da se sestanejo z nekom (vendar se uporablja predvsem za nič prijateljev storiti z dating) ali imamo yue Hui, ki je kot resnega fanta in dekle izključno dating".

Potem sem spoznal, ... (iz mojih izkušenj ki živijo na Kitajskem), to je točno, kako skoraj vsi kitajski ljudje mislijo ... moraš res res kot nekdo, preden greste na zmenek z njim ... in ga je treba izključno in resno iz dobiti iti ...

To pa me je spomnil vseh časov sem poskušal govoriti o ideji priložnostne zmenkov s kitajskimi dekleta in jih je dalo me obtožujejo, da so umazani tujec, ki si želela igrati z dekleti ...

Torej ... sem mislil ... čeprav je kitajska kultura izpostavljeni tej ideji priložnostne zmenkov preko medijev in vseh svojih ameriških TV oddaje, večina izmed njih še vedno ne razumejo idejo ... ali mislite, da svoje popolnoma nenavadno in nesprejemljivo.

Torej, moja teorija je, ... je, da je jezik bolj pomembno kot mislimo, da je jezik ... sam dejansko ustvarjanje / ohranjanje te kulturno obnašanje ... in da je zato, ker sploh ni besed za opis tega ... to je samodejno, kot čudno tuja stvar ... in da se zdi normalno, je skoraj nemogoče.

Če je ideja sama po sebi ni niti prisotna v njihovem jeziku ... kako bi bilo normalno ali naravna stvar? Kako da ne more avtomatično označeni kot čudno privzeto?

Deluje tudi v drugo smer ... na Kitajskem imajo nekaj, kar ti shanghuo 上火 (začetek ognja?) ... In ker nimamo besed za opis tega koncepta v našem jeziku, njegova skoraj nemogoče za nas, da dobim ...

To je povezano z bilanco yina in yanga in je simptom, ki se pojavi, ko je stanje iz Wack ... kar vneto grlo in druge stvari ... in ima opraviti z nekaterimi izbiro prehrane ... in prav ima opraviti z pridobivanje jezni o stvareh, ... To me je tako kot en teden, da ga razumemo v tej opredelitvi in ​​to še vedno zdi tako tuje, da me.

Toda ta ideja shanghuo je tako velik del njihovega vsakdana. Vsakdo jo razume in sprejema kot samo očitna. Ko sem jim povedal, nimamo shanghuo bodo verjetno mislijo svoje, kot čudno je, kako čudno se mi zdi, da nimajo priložnostne zmenkov.

Mislim, da je verjetno, da je prvotno ustvarila kultura jezika, zdaj pa mislim, da je jezik, ohranjanje kulture.

Drug primer je "Wenti" To pomeni vprašanje, in to tudi pomeni, problem.Chinese ljudje res ne maram stvari, na vprašanje ali njihove šefi ali oblasti ... Niso spodbujati, da postavljajo vprašanja v šoli, ali na vprašanje ideje drugih ... Morda zato, ker vsak "vprašanje" ima enak pomen kot da so "problem"

Koliko lastnega vedenja oblikujejo jezik, v katerem jih uporabljamo. Vidimo lahko, jasne primere to, ko gre za abstraktne pojme, kot so 'ljubezni' ... temelji na našem jeziku smo vajeni govoriti o ljubezni, bodisi da so ali izključite stikalo. Ali ste v ljubezni ali tvoj ne. Toda stvari v resnici niso nikoli res, da je črno-bel, je vedno tako veliko sivine ... ampak lahko vidite, kako je naše vedenje v odnosih, ki jih ta ideja.

Ko smo spoznali, da je vsak misel in koncept v naših glavah ubeseditvene uporabo jezika smo bili izraženi s, pomen našega jezika postaja vse bolj očitna. Koliko resnično koncepti svetu so tam tudi v drugih jezikih, ki nimamo pogojev za v angleščini? Kolikokrat smo poenostavljam preveč abstraktne pojme, kot dobro in zlo, ki jih uporabljajo posamezne besede, da jih opisali? Kot svet poln slepih ljudi nikoli ne bi vedeli, da so manjkali vid ... Katere vrste konceptov in idej nam manjkajo, ker nimamo besed, da jih opisujejo?

Študije so pokazale, da jezik vpliva ne samo, kako razmišljamo, ampak tudi naše zaznavanje gibanja, zaznavanje čustev, predmet predstavitev in celo spomin.

Eden izmed mojih najljubših knjig, ki jih Malcolm Gladwell naslovom "Izločeni" kažejo, da govorci Kitajcev kantonskem imeli veliko lažje, ko se spomnimo dolgih nizov številk, saj vsaka številka ima krajšo izgovorjavo, da je njegova angleščina enakovredna ..., ki omogoča njihov kratkoročni spomin, da imajo več mest v kratkem času. Testiral sem tole, medtem ko na Kitajskem in tudi dobil zmečkali moj kantonskem prijatelju!

Ali res jezik oblikuje vedenje ali ne, in v kolikšni meri je treba še dokazati, vendar je vseeno cel kup smislu, in lahko pomaga razložiti nekaj težav imam pri razumevanju svoje kitajske prijatelje in kako mislijo.

Zanimive stvari ... povej mi svoje misli ~

Pomemben del razumevanja sveta in vse njegove crazyness je empatija.

Če lahko sebe v čevlje drugega in razumeti življenje iz svoje perspektive bomo lahko velike korake pri razumevanju vedenja ljudi po vsem svetu.

Moramo poskušati razumeti, da so vsi ljudje samo to, kar mislijo, da je treba storiti, da bi bila srečna. To je cilj, da vsi deli, lahko pa nešteto vplivov okolja vpliva kako se ta izraža v različnih ljudi.

Denar lačen CEO, terorizma, korupcije državni uradnik, mučenec, nuna ... Če hočemo razumeti te ljudi moramo razumeti, če se njihovi sedanji način razmišljanja prišel. in to moramo razumeti različne vplive, ki so oblikovale, ki so v njihovem celotnem življenju na tej zemlji.

Poleg manjših genetskih vplivov, ki jih je mogoče premagati, se ljudje ne rodijo dobra ali slaba, poškodovana ali čista, ali katero koli lastnost, smo pripisujejo osebnosti. Ti so oblikovani po svetu, v katerem živimo, informacije, ki jih imajo, znanja in spretnosti, ki so jih razvili, je miselnost, ki so programirana v njih s svojimi izkušnjami in situacije so bili izpostavljeni.

Na žalost ne moremo osebo in doživite, kar so doživeli in videli, kaj so videli in so naše misli oblikujejo njihov način so bili ... pa lahko naredimo malo poskusov miselne, predstavljati zase, kaj bi bilo, če bi rast v različnih obdobjih in situacijah in da se oblikujejo različnih okoljih.

S pomočjo te empatije lahko začnemo razumeti vedenje drugih ... ki pa ne pomeni, da bi morali oprostite, opravičevati ali obsojajo ravnanje, najmanj pa moramo razumeti.

Neverjetno pogovor na tem področju, ki sem jih videl v zadnjem času je s Sam Richards imenuje radikalen eksperiment empatije.

Preverite v nadaljevanju.

Ali ta pogovor vam pomaga razumeti vaše kolege ljudi malo bolje?

Vsi smo že slišali na vprašanje, preden:

"Ali denar prinesel srečo?"

in smo vsi slišali različne odgovore. Slišali smo od milijonarjev čemer nesrečen, smo slišali za ljudi z nič pa neverjetno srečna. in na drugi strani vidimo, srečno premožni ljudje s bogastvo na vseh področjih svojega življenja, in ljudje, ki so tako revni trpijo neskončno zaradi nje.

Mnogi od nas občutek, da če bi imeli več denarja, bi bili mi srečnejši ... skoraj vsi dobili navdušeni nad idejo o zmagi na loteriji, znaten dvig vedno zdi kot dobra stvar ... Vendar smo tudi spoznali najboljše stvari v življenju so brezplačne . Gremo kampiranje pobegniti od materialnega sveta. Vidimo težav, sla po denarju ustvarja na svetu.

Torej, kaj se dogaja tukaj? Zakaj je prišlo, kot konflikt med idejo denarja in sreče?

To je moja teorija, da je problem z asking vprašanje "Ali bi denar, srečo", da je vprašanje pomanjkljiv. Moja ideja je, da denar ne nanaša neposredno na srečo na vse ... in če razmerje obstaja, njena zelo šibka v najboljšem primeru.

Denar se pa zdi, da imajo neposreden 1-1 odnos, ki kaj podobnega ... nekaj, kar, kadar se uporabljajo učinkovito, lahko ustvarite srečo, ali kdaj bodo omejena ali ne izvaja pravilno, lahko povzroči nesrečo ... kar bi razložil, zakaj se ljudje s podobno stopnjo denarja bo o teh nasprotnih straneh sreče spektra.

Ta 1-1 odnos, je odnos med denarjem in svobodo.

Razmislite o tem. Več denarja oseba, več svobode imajo. In manj denarja oseba, manj svobode imajo. Odnos je neposredno in v celoti.

Na slabe strani spektra izgubite pravico do življenja v vrsto hiše, ki jo želite, voziti vrsto avtomobila, ki ga želite ali celo lastnik avtomobila, da vaš otrok v vrstah šol, ki jih želite, prejeli ustrezno zdravstveno varstvo (v nekaterih državah), nimate svobodno potovanje, in če dobiš slabo dovolj morda ne boste niti za svobodno kupujejo hrano in preživetje. Ko denar pade na 0 in brez drugih vmesnih dejavnikov, boste izgubili tudi pravico do življenja, kot je na sto tisoče storiti po svetu vsak dan.

Na nasprotni strani spektra, ki ga imate tiste, prosimo, da pogled na svet, kupujejo stvari, ki jih želijo, da bi več denarja in ne z lahkoto, ima najboljšo zdravstveno varstvo, varnost, varna dobil najboljšo izobrazbo, imajo največ prostega časa, so najboljše izkušnje, nadzor drugih, z dovolj denarja, lahko celo lahko presegajo pravila zakona, ki jih odplačuje lokalni kazenski pregon.

in tisti v sredini imela povprečno stopnjo svobode na teh področjih.

Zdaj seveda lahko nekatere od teh dejavnikov se nanašajo na svobodo sreče, vendar pa lahko jasno vidimo, da je razmerje med denarjem, neposredno do svobode in ostalo je le po tem, ko učinek tega.

Zdaj, ko smo sprejeli ta denar = svobodo in pomanjkanje denarja = pomanjkanje svobode lahko začnemo opažati nekaj bolj off dajanje. Vsi smo rojeni brez denarja, tako da smo vsi rojeni z resno pomanjkanje svobode, (poleg svobode naši starši dajo za nas) ... v bistvu smo vsi rojeni v svet suženjstva, kjer moramo zaslužiti našo svobodo skozi nešteto ur izobraževanja in trdo delo.

Zdaj seveda nekateri od nas so imeli srečo in rojeni v družinah, ki že vsebujejo visoko stopnjo svobode, tako da bomo lahko imeli veliko težav našo svobodo, ki nam ... ali pa se lahko daje velike možnosti za pridobitev nekaj lastne svobode zelo enostavno ... Ampak žalostna resnica je večina niso tako srečni in veliko planeta je rodil v družini, ki imajo malo ali nič svobode za rezervne.

Na podlagi tega dogovora lahko vidimo, da je naša svoboda neposredno omejeno z zneskom denarja, ki ga imamo. Zdaj ko je večina od nas v bogatih državah imajo dovolj veliko količino svobode, ki nam v resnici ne čutijo naša svoboda je vse, omejen (razen za naše 9-5 delovnih mest, v katerih smo sprejeli kot normalno in potrebno) smo po vsem svetu začeli pojavljati težave s tem korelacije. Velik problem pri tem razmerju je ideja dolga, ki smo jih ustvarili.

Denar v bistvu ustvarila iz tankih zraka s frakcijsko rezerve bančnega sistema, in ga je treba vrniti. Vendar, ko je uporaba obresti dal na vrhu je, da je manj denarja, ki obstajajo od tistega, ki ga je treba vrniti. This results in the necessity to add more and more money into the system resulting in less value for each dollar, and a need to accumulate more and more to maintain our level of freedom. In turn this creates higher and higher debts and less and less worldly freedoms.

In case I'm not being clear… “If all debts in the world were paid off, there wouldn't be a single dollar in existence”

This of course helps to explain why the US debt is over 14 trillion dollars… and rising.

One of the questions I hope this article raises is: “What type of freedoms should be universal for human beings?” and of course, this question must be considered from the perspective that money = freedom. Should human beings be born with the freedom to have access to food and water? Or should that be a freedom that has to be fought for and earned? Our current minimum level of freedom on earth, is welfare in some countries, a couple homeless programs and stuff like that in the rich countries, and practically nothing but the occasional food drive for the hundreds of thousands in poverty around the world. With technologies in existence such as hydro/aquaponics, earthship homes, super-capacitors, renewable energies, and countless countless others, should we really have such a low default level of freedom on earth?

Another thing to consider is our maximum level of freedom. Currently our maximum level of freedom is based on how much money we have. The estimated number of millionaires in the world, (people with a good deal, but far from limitless amount of freedom) is 10,000,000 which is only 0.15% of the worlds population. Is this the best system we should be basing our freedom off? One that only provides a good deal of freedom to 0.15% of the world?

So how can we do better?

What if instead our freedom was not limited by money, but instead limited by the state of our technological advancements and the resources of the earth. What if the freedom to eat was not based off of how much money a person had, but instead how much food the combined efforts of the world could produce through advanced technologies? What if the freedom to travel was not based off money but instead how many automated renewable energy transportation systems we could create?

This is just a vague unexplained surface scratch of the ideas this train of thought produces, but the rest is far beyond the scope of this article. One thing we can see is that instead of our freedom being based off of money and the growing debts that are plaguing the system, if our freedom was based off of advances in technology and science it would always be growing and evolving. Essentially all people on the planet would become more and more free as our technology improves further and further. Now that's interesting.

The train of thought I'm referring to of that of a Resource Based Economy. An intro to these ideas can be seen here:

In-case your not buying the whole 'we are kind of slaves' thing, here is another interesting perspective about the idea of how we are not very free:

Near the middle of June, I returned home to Canada after 1 year and 9 months in China for a nice Canadian summer vacation.

I really wanted to refresh my mind with the familiar after spending so much time in such a different culture, and I really wanted to see my family and friends again.

Coming home again was a strange experience. They call it reverse culture shock, but for me it was so much shocking as it was just strange. Coming home was exciting in some ways and unsettling in others. The whole experience of coming home didn't feel real at first. The best way to describe it was that I constantly felt like I was dreaming and that any second I would wake up and be back in China.

China had become my reality, and Canada, although familiar, felt different. The empty streets, the wide open spaces, the nature, the peaceful residential areas… it all felt a little bit new to me. I definitely appreciated certain things before that I had never really cared about while in China. I was dazzled by how nice the neighbourhood around my house looked. I noticed how many more birds and squirrels and stuff were around. For the first time I could understand the conversations of strangers, and the small talk from the people around me we're talking about became very interesting.

Going into a store felt really strange… I could talk to the cashier in English fluently… She would treat me just like anyone else… It was completely normal but felt really special.

My home town is full of many cultures and it was cool to see so many different looking people in the same area… In China most people look very similar. People seemed much heavier as well as Chinese people are nearly all super skinny.

Going down to Toronto I was so intrigued by all the interesting looking people with tattoos and dyed hair and piercings and alternative fashions I wanted to talk to all of them just to see what they were about.

Seeing my family and friends was really nice… most of them stayed exactly the same, but some had changed in pretty big ways. The question I got from everyone 'how was China' always felt so impossible to answer. I knew from my time in Thailand that I would never be able to pass on my experiences in China to anyone else… telling stories about China pass on no more of my experiences than hearing news reports pass on the experience of the events.

Coming home, besides giving me a greater appreciation of Canada actually gave me a greater appreciation of China as well. Running into situations like a needing to go to a beer store… or getting a fishing licence or fire permit… or dealing with bouncers at clubs… and the vast space between everything making cars almost a necessity… or not being able to walk out of my house at 1am and find something to eat or drink… all made me appreciate the convenience and casualness of China a lot more. Canada has so many rules and regulations and restrictions and social expectations and… well these things just don't exist in China… I told many friends to their surprise that so called communist China feels a lot more free to me than Canada.

After about 3 weeks all the strangeness of Canada began to disappear. Canada became my reality again, and now China seemed like a dream. I caught up with all my friends and family, ate all the foods I missed, did the things I hadn't done in years… Then really just enjoyed my vacation while it lasted. I tried not to spend any money whenever possible because of how expensive everything is in Canada, and still ended up spending way more money than I would have liked. I cringe on the inside every time I have to share a $15 pitcher of beer as my mind compares it to the 10-cent beers that I had while in Aojiang or the 90-cent pints we used to get at the bar in Shunde.

I spent hours and hours on youtube relishing the freedom of unblocked youtube videos… and am happy that after 2 years of not having access to it, I now only use facebook about 10% of the time that I used to.

People say I pronounce some words with an accent now… I don't really notice it.

I decided to really improve my Mandarin during the summer, so I began studying a few hours a day on it. This makes the idea of going back to China much more exciting as it will open up a lot more possibilities for me.

People have asked me how I've changed the most since before and after my trip… but I've had a little trouble answering it. The changes from my perspective have happened gradually and its hard for me to really remember exactly what I was like before I left. I'm sure if I could teleport my mind between the pre and post China Devin the difference would be pretty staggering. I think if I tried to some it up into a few points I would say.

• I'm far more confident. I care what other people think about me a lot less than I used to.
• I totally embrace all the strange things about myself now, and have little interest in normal people.
• I'm far more educated and interested in world issues. Understanding human behaviour and the workings of society is really interesting to me. I question everything now and try to get a root understanding of it all.
• I feel more easily frustrated with other people and the way they think and act in (from my perspective) detrimental ways.
• I approach things from a much more scientific logical mentality than I used to.
• I value unique people a lot more
• I'm into many new types of music and lost interested in some of my old favourites.
• I now know I can never go back to a typical 9-5 job.
• I try to remove all aspects of my culture from who I am and instead just look at logic and reality and what works and what makes people happy.
• I'm no longer sure if I ever want to get married.
• I think I also feel the heaviness of the world a lot more strongly now.
• I have better social skills, and more interest/enthusiasm in social interactions. I really enjoy a good deep discussion with people.
• I try to cut through all the BS out there and live in really authentic honest ways. I'd rather be honest with someone and have them not like me than keep my feelings to myself.
• I'ma lot less patriotic and a lot less into following sports.
• I have a bigger appreciation for the simple things, playing volleyball with friends, sitting around a campfire with a nice drink, walking at night, looking at the stars, and stuff like that.

I think that's about it.

Looking back on China I feel a lot of strange feelings about it. While I was in China I lived for an extended period of time in 5 different places… plus the countless travel experiences. In each one of these places I did different things for money, had different friends a different environment and different experiences… It really feels like I lived 5 or more different lives while in China… and now that I'm back in Canada looking back on them all is a bit of a mind trip. In each new place you settle into, it becomes your new reality. Your mind adapts to it and it is your new situation and the you inside that situation is the new you. Sure we have memories that link it all together… but the feeling of each place, seems to be lost after each time you go somewhere new… That feeling only comes back to me if I smell a certain smell or hear a certain song that I strongly associate with each place, and it only comes back for a moment. It's hard to explain and maybe needs to be experienced to be understood. I wonder how many different lives most people live… how often they just pack up and move across country away from their homes… maybe in these 2 years I experiences as many different lives as some people do in their entire lifetime? Now that each of these lives are over and I'm back in Canada, trying to remember them makes each one of them feel kind of unreal… Did they really happen? Of course they did I have pictures, and friends and blog posts… but besides these little mementos what is really left? I don't expect others to understand the strangeness of it… but writing about it makes me feel better.

I lived mostly out of my backpack in China and the freedom was wonderful. I wonder how many different lives I will live this time I leave my home.

It's been 2 and a half months now since I've been home. A part of me is really eager to go back, and a part of me wants to stay in Canada and hang out with my friends forever and give up the whole crazy idea of making it in another country again…

…ya right!

We all know which part of me will win

My flight is booked for Sep. 26th

Like anyone, sometimes I can get a little down.

Sometimes there's a good reason for it, and sometimes there isn't. The real question is, what should you do about it? If its a situation that you can take some sort of action to fix, then go for it, take action, make some changes. Other times it's not so simple, maybe there's nothing you can do about your situation, and perhaps you don't even know why your feeling down in the first place.

That was the case with me the other day. I was feeling down for no good reason, I didn't really know why, and I didn't really care. I just felt mildly depressed, and the truth is I didn't even feel like cheering myself up. For some reason it felt as if wallowing in my blue feeling was the only thing that I should do. Logically I knew I could probably cheer myself up but it was almost as if I didn't even want to feel better.

I think these are the times when your emotions kind of feel like a drug. You feel addicted to them and you don't really want them to go away even though you know the alternative is better. So there I sat on some stairs in Guilin, with my head resting on my fist, looking out into the world I wasn't happy in, feeling miserable.

Just at that time an old lady walked up to me with a huge heavy looking bag over her shoulder. She had a back problem and was bent over at the waist, almost at a 90-degree angle and walked slowly under the weight of what she carried. While I should have thought something along the lines of “well at least I have my health to be happy about, not like this poor woman” instead my thoughts said “oh great, here comes an annoying beggar to bother me for money.”

The lady walked up to me and held out her hand, and just as I was about to turn away I noticed that she simply wanted to collect the empty water bottle I was holding. She was one of the ladies that made their away around town collecting hundreds of plastic bottles in order to trade them in for enough to get by. I handed the bottle to her and expected her to then ask me for some change, but she didn't, and instead she thanked me twice… and with a really sincere, appreciative look in her eyes and walked away.

I felt a stroke of admiration, this lady has serious health problems, but instead of sitting down on the street and begging for money like so many others in China she trucks on, and carries heavy bags of what she collects around the city, working for herself to get by. I sat there a little stunned as I watched the lady slowly walk away carrying her heavy load with her.

“I want to do something nice for this lady,” I thought.

She put her bags down next to a building and hobbled down the street looking for more bottles to collect. I realized if I wanted to make this woman happy I couldn't just go give her some money, as she might feel insulted since she works hard for every penny she gets without being a beggar. Instead I had to think of a way to give her what she needed without her knowing she received any charity. I formulated my plan.

I waited for the lady to enter a small ally before I made my move. I sneaked over to where her heavy bags were and took some money out of my wallet. I lifted up the corner of one of her bags and slid the money underneath, and ran back to the stairs before being seen.

For the next 10 minutes I sat there with absolute focus waiting for the lady to return. My mind was clear of everything as I waited in excited anticipation. Eventually she made her way back to the bags. I stood up with excitement ready to see if she would find the money or not. I went behind a pillar for a better view. After 1 more minute of resting she picked up her heavy bags, then stopped. She reached down and grabbed the money I had hidden, and although her faced was turned away from me and I couldn't see her, I imagined a big *lucky* smile shine upon her face.

The lady had found more money in that lucky second than she would likely find all day. I imagined the rest of her day would be easier. Her bags wouldn't feel so heavy, there would be a lightness in her step because she had luckily stumbled upon some money. It must have felt like the universe was smiling on her. I felt great.

I would never see that woman again, never receive her thanks, or even see her smile but it didn't matter. I felt like I did something good for someone less fortunate than me, and it didn't contain any of the usual gratitude, which surprisingly made it feel really really good! The depression I felt earlier in the day was a faded memory. I was refreshed and renewed, the rest of my day felt sunny.

So there you have it. When your feeling down, instead of trying to make yourself feel better, which can be difficult or which can even feel undesirable… instead make someone else feel good. Help cheer someone else up, or help someone that needs you. Lending a hand to someone less fortunate than you can give you a wonderful feeling, and if you make it into a fun event like I did it can completely lift your spirits.

Until next time, feel good!

Pred kratkim sem imel absolutno privilegij preverjanje iz enega najbolj neverjetnih mestih, kar sem jih kdaj bili na svetu.

V Guilin riževe terase.

V Guilin riževe terase

Mama moje dekle Jen je odločil, da nas bo na super izlet za ogled terase v majhnem mestu, ki je bil približno eno vožnjo ur od Guilin.

Po vožnji na vetrovnem cesti gorskega za dolgo časa smo dosegli spodnji del vasi, kjer so nas obrnil kup deklet z velikimi turbins in košare na svojih hrbtih.

V košare na svojih hrbtih se uporabljajo za prevoz težkih stvari v gore

Po podrobnejšem pregledu pa sem opazil, da ni nosila turbins, ampak je imela neverjetno dolge lase! V tej vasi je tradicija, da je več ženski lasje, bolj lepa in vredna ona je za poroko.

Ščetkanje lase naše skozi okno

2 od starejših vaških deklet razkazuje svoje lase z nami

Nato sva po dolgi pohod v vas, ki je bil napornem pri vseh naših težkih vrečk. Ko smo prišli na vrh pa je v hišici za goste na gori, ki bi se bivanjem, smo bili vsi odpihnilo z absolutno lepoto!

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Te terase se uporabljajo za gojenje riža, in imajo to posebno obliko, tako da so učinkoviti za zalivanje (pa tudi, da se riž, ki se posajene v tako oddaljene lokacije) vsako stopnjo na teraso je poplavljena z vodo, ki kaplja navzdol do plasti spodaj in plasti pod daje vse od riža na gori tudi raven vode. Ogledate si lahko fant dela na področju tukaj:

Trdo delajo na riževih poljih

Celotna izkušnja je bila res lepo. Bilo je super, da preprosto osamljen od mesta, obdan z gorami v vseh smeri. Celo samo dihanje na svežem zraku je bilo neverjetno osvežujoče, da svoj ​​sistem po porabi toliko časa zaklenjena v svoj ​​računalnik, ki dela na oblikovanja T-shirt World.

Prebivalci vasi so bili zelo prijazni in se lepo skrbi za nas. Celotna pot in prostor gostišče je bil tudi neverjetno poceni, kot ena sama noč je bila le 80rmb (12,30 $). Hrana je bila čudovita, so imeli nekaj res edinstvene in okusno riževo vino, in preprosto stala na balkonu in gledali na čudite se riževe terase so bile, ki mora biti oblikovana v gore več generacij ... je res fenomenalen.

After visiting these rice fields, I officially declare Guilin my favorite travel destination in China. Not only does Guilin have these rice fields, they also have the amazing mountains and rivers of Yangshuo, Stunning caves, waterfalls, white water rafting, and so much more to see and do. It really is one of the most beautiful destinations on earth.

In my usual fashion I'll leave you all with a slide show!

I have to apologize for the lack of updates to this blog, but for the last couples of months I have been working diligently on creating my new business!, and when I say diligently I really mean diligently!.. and have been putting in about an average of 10-12 hour work days nearly every day.

All the work however has produced a result that I am rather proud of, so I am excited to share (drum roll please)

T-Shirt Design World . com

T-Shirt Design World is a t-shirt website with a unique angle. It's about bringing together only the highest quality designs, made by artists who come from many different countries from around the world, with really affordable prices.

Right now at the time of launch all of our tees are $7-$10 and we already have 11 designers from 6 different countries!

The cool thing about having different designers from different countries is that you get a lot of different styles. Already T-Shirt Design World has cute silly tees, funny creative shirts, colorful bright t-shirts, cool stylish designs, and more.

Designers

How it works for our designers is that we pay them 40% of the profit for each shirt of theirs that we sell. When a designer is interested in joining we have him send us at least 5 samples of his work. If our T-Shirt judges approve at least 5 of them then we create a store page for them, with cool banners showing their style, and make their tees available for sale.

Check out our Design 4 Us page to learn more.

The Future

As with all new companies we expect the beginning of our store to start slow, but we hope to see continuous growth into the future. We have tons and tons of plans for how to make the store better and we will be working constantly to see it expand.

Upamo, da se oblikovalci v večini držav sveta, in postal organ, ko gre za iskanje zanimivih majice narejene od ljudi na zemlji.

Jaz osebno tudi v prihodnosti vizijo spletne strani, ki je na žalost še prezgodaj, da deluje ven ... in to je, da imajo spletne strani, ko je bolj uspešen, deluje kot neke vrste storitev za človeštvo. Moji načrti za prihodnost vključujejo donacijo odstotek vsega denarja, ki pomagajo vzpostaviti 'trajnostnega prihodnjega mehanizma projektov v posameznih državah, da ustvarjalci v srajco prihajajo.

To je lahko nekaj tako enostavno, kot na primer: 20% vseh dobička iz trgovin, t-shirt ki jo zastopa oblikovalcev indonezijske bo šel za projekt postavitve Mlin na veter, da bi moč sirotišnici indonezijsko.

Čeprav je ta primer je majhen, je realistična ... in medtem ko je energija, ki jo en sam mlina na veter ne bo veliko, da za razliko, točka je za ozaveščanje o svetovno mora narediti korak naprej v smeri izvajanja obnovljive in trajnostne tehnologije.

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Kakorkoli že, dovolj govoriti! Jaz bom šel naprej in po diaprojekcijo, ki prikazuje različne kolaže, ustvarjene z uporabo nekaterih modelov iz vsake umetnika.

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Recently Jen and I have opened up our home to couch surfers.

Couch-surfing is a worldwide network of travelers who open up their homes for (or sometimes just meet for a drink) with other travelers. If you haven't seen it before you should check it out!

We've had some great people stay with us, and one particularly interesting one was a Chinese man named Marvin whos stop at our place was part of his year long bike trip around China!

Marvin's been on the road for over 5 months now, and has tons of great experiences around China. He gave me the pleasure of giving him this interview for this talking to travelers series:

Marvin and his bike

In fact, at the beginning I was the type to follow the common Chinese life style. I was more reserved and not so outgoing. However in college I started to listen to rock music on the radio, then once I heard <Where did you sleep last night> by Nirvana, I started to change. I also had some friends who loved art and shared the same interests with me. We often talked about travel and the western music. So it started from music, then I gradually got to know about other aspects, which guided me in knowing what kind of life I wanted.

So after graduation, I left my hometown, and worked in Dalian for a year. At that time, I provided couch surfing for others many times. I heard their stories and experience, so it inspired me to get out there and look around for myself. Later I started to try many different jobs in different cities which began my travels.

Making it to Lasa (The Capital City of Tibet) has always been my dream. At the beginning I planned to travel there by bus. But the expenses are very high. So instead I found another way to travel there— by riding my bicycle. My habit is that when I have an idea, I will act on it, and let the experience of trying teach me how. I found that sometimes when we think too hard about something, in the end we will talk ourselves out of it. It's better just to act on our inspired ideas.

On the way I learned lots of things that I never had chance to learn before. It was more interesting than living in the city. But I also think about my parents when I travel for such a long time, so I decided that I will take a 1 year long trip, then after that, I will make money and help to give my family a better quality life. After that, I will travel again.

To save money, I try to stay with couch surfers. When I find locals willing to help, I can not only make lots of friends, but can also learn more about local cultures and customs.

On the way, I met man different people, experienced man different things and shared many different ideas. I see it as a kind of study. Also, I have enough time to think about it all on the way. The whole couch surfing experience really makes my trip rewarding.

1. Pomoč

Every day is new and new problems always arise. However sometimes I find strangers willing to help me. I feel grateful for this so I try to give a hand to others when they need it as well.
2. Perspective.

I've learned that in this world, there are many more good people than bad people. Chinese education always teaches us that bad people are everywhere. However if you experience the world for yourself, you will know the truth.

3. Communication.

On the way I have met so many people that helped me. So it's been necessary to learn how to communicate in a proper way, because couch surfing is not merely living in hotels.

4. Less complaining.

Rather than complaining, it is better to save energy for the trip!

Loneliness

This loneliness is not only about being alone during the journey but really the hardest part is that no many people can support and understand it. Therefore I have to become stronger without caring about other people's opinions.
I am the owner of my life. I am the leader. So only I can feel and understand. Others are just the audience.

I've learned to appreciate, and learned to understand.

Some philosophies I've discovered while biking that can be applied to life follow:

“The harder it is to reach the top of the hill, the more you can relax as you coast down it. But please be careful about your speed.

When you are going downhill or uphill, you can not relax. But when you face these hills, it will challenge your limitations.

You will never know what is behind the next turn, the only way to know is to go forward and check.

When things get rough, hold on for one more second… you will see the first rays of sunrise.

Never mind what people will say, only your can feel your experiences, so only you have the right to say judge them.

There is always something that triggers the pieces of your memory.

Life is like the accelerator, you can set the speed of the ride.

We run to chase the setting sun, while only a little heat remains. Although we know that this little heat is not hot enough to warm our body, but just a little light can ignite our hearts when the darkness comes.

If you don't love yourself, don't expect others love you.

What you want is always more than what you achieve.

Taking picture is nothing to do with the camera. The key is if your eyes know how to catch beauty. This pair of eyes is in your heart.

Time is the best truth. So close your eyes and judge with your mind.

If you smile to the mirror, the mirror will smile to you.

When you watch the view from far, you see the mountains are there, the scenery is there. When you go closer you see, the mountain is still there but greater. When you go too close, you wonder where is the mountain?

It is the same with love.”

Everyday when I arrive at new destinations, they are all my best moments.

Chatting, cooking and parting with couch surfers and sharing my stories and pictures with my friends.

Thanks for the great interview Marvin! We can all learn from the philosophies you have discovered during your travels. We wish you the best of luck continuing your journey to Tibet!